Today I want to talk about guilt. Every person has experienced guilt at least once. But, as practice shows, this feeling is not always adequate to the situation. Often those around us simply impose it on us. Sometimes this goes on since childhood. - Apologize, it doesn’t matter who is right or wrong, be smarter. - But I... - You’re younger, so apologize. There is nothing wrong with a healthy sense of guilt, it helps us feel our own wrongness and stimulates us to atone for our mistakes. But if we are talking about toxic wine, then everything is completely different. A person experiencing this unhealthy feeling eats himself up in a psychological sense. And if he does not begin to analyze everything he feels in a timely manner, the consequences can be unpleasant. What questions will help free oneself from the obsessive feeling of guilt? Let's try together to deal with guilt by changing the perspective of assessment situations! “Can I go back to the past?” Remember one important thing: the feeling of guilt always turns to the past when we are tormented by the fact that we did something or, on the contrary, did not do something. But it is impossible to return to the past. Is there any point in endlessly tormenting yourself with painful thoughts that feed your already strong guilt? My recommendation to you is simple and accessible: go back to the past only for the purpose of analyzing your own behavior, circumstances, etc. But not for aimlessly scrolling through the same thing the same scenario, which only makes it worse. Remember that your task is to work through the feeling of guilt and free yourself from it, not to strengthen it. “Could I be wrong?” Many of my clients have an internal belief that they have no right to error. They are tolerant of the misdeeds of others, they can endure and forgive a lot. But not yourself. In the subconscious of these people there lives a firm conviction that they do not have a single chance of making a mistake. They must always be impeccable. You understand that this is a direct path to neurosis? “Who evaluates me?” We often feel guilty because we seem bad, wrong, not what we need. But think about it: who needs it? Who is evaluating you? Who decides whether you did the right thing or not? Before you work with guilt, trying to atone for it, make sure it is true. Did what happened really happen because of your actions? “Maybe I’m just feeling sorry for myself?” Often, self-pity is hidden behind the feeling of guilt. In this case, it is as if we begin to hide behind an invented offense, trying to justify ourselves in the eyes of others. But the peculiarity of all this is that the person does not strive to solve the problem and move on. He plunges into it. Guilt is a healthy reaction to one’s own mistake, which led to unpleasant consequences. But guilt shouldn't be a part of you. Otherwise, a person ceases to live fully, cannot be realized, or experience feelings other than guilt. This condition should definitely be worked through with a specialist..