How often do we try to defend our opinion, our position, our beliefs without thinking about whether we are doing it correctly and whether our current dispute will lead to even greater conflicts in the future. People, in the majority in their own way, they are emotional and impulsive and do not like to keep their emotions to themselves, which often leads to us losing our tempers and turning even the smallest disagreement into a problem on a global scale. Let's figure out what the main mistakes we make when arguing and how in reality we need to find a solution that suits all parties to the conflict: Mistakes: We don’t know how to listen - we simply repeat what we think is true, without even trying to listen to the other side and without giving it the opportunity to speak, and if the opponent manages to insert something, we miss it deaf ears. We don’t explain our position - we continue to talk about how this is so and not otherwise, but we don’t consider it necessary to calmly sort out our arguments so that the opponent understands our position, as if it is as obvious to others as it is to us .We do not bring the issue to the end - very often (especially girls) starting to argue about one thing, we abruptly move on to another topic, leaving the root cause unresolved, which, in turn, can lead again to an argument in the very near future. Let's move on to personality is one of the most common mistakes in an argument, I think it’s not even worth explaining why... We begin to get very emotional, thereby putting pressure on our opponent. We refuse to accept that the other is right, even if we admit it inside. So, having dealt with the main mistakes, let’s now stop on the basic rules of arguing: Listen to your interlocutor until he stops his monologue. Argue your position. Paraphrase negative formulations into positive ones (Ex.: “You came home late” - “I wanted to spend the evening with you”). Respect your interlocutor, do not insult. Lighten up the conversation: smile and joke more, find room for a compliment. Offer several options for resolving the issue. And a couple more pieces of advice for you personally: - try, if possible, not to lead to a conflict; - don’t be vindictive, forget the bad quickly (it’s good for your health); - before making a claim, figure out its root cause, what exactly you doesn’t suit you (maybe the reason is you and you just want to relieve your tension on another person). We hope our advice will be useful to you, but if you want to practice your dispute management skills in detail, sign up for training with us: www.2marins.ru, +7 (968) 471-70-80, online consultations.