“Do good,” and what really stands behind it? Do good. Well, this phrase has become quite widespread, especially recently, hasn’t it? Let's figure out what it's actually about? How often have you noticed that it's difficult for you to watch how loved ones/friends/colleagues/acquaintances/passers-by on the street/unfamiliar people online (highlight and underline as necessary) make mistakes, which, you know for sure, they will pay later, and there is no strength to look at it calmly. And what about you? And you are eager to “go into battle”, save the poor guy, “put him on the right path”, because it’s not difficult for you at all, you have knowledge, experience, intelligence, you are a knowledgeable and advanced person, and you know exactly how it is do! And you throw all your knowledge, skills, resources to solve other people’s problems, unable to control yourself! What's the end result? Counting on gratitude with noble intentions, you not only received gratitude, but on the contrary, you also turned out to be extreme! Well, do you recognize yourself? This example clearly demonstrates the violation of other people’s and one’s own boundaries. Here is the well-known Karpman triangle in all its glory - playing the Rescuer, when unsolicited help “did good.” Such a scenario most often causes overt or hidden aggression and negativity in others, and resentment and a sense of injustice in you. People are ungrateful. And this is natural, because they did not ask for help. Accepting and allowing people to remain themselves, with their mistakes, failures, successes and failures is the highest level of awareness and acceptance! For everyone lives their own life and goes their own way! And yes, even if it's your adult children, your parents, or your spouse. Doing good - not causing good - is possible only in the case when a request was made specifically to you for help in a particular matter/action. Then this is help and kindness. Not in the case when it seemed to you that they were hinting at you, but when they said it directly and openly verbally! And this is important, and this makes a difference! Admit it, does it happen that you just want to “do good”? How did people react? Was there a realization that it was better to keep unsolicited help/opinion/advice to yourself??😉