To ensure that your communication is to the delight of everyone and does not bring pain and disastrous consequences, I list the important rules. If your partner asks, but you don’t want to at all, offer him another option for tight sex, for example, with the help of your thighs, toys, certain positions during vaginal penetration.A if you have an interest, first study the article below and only then move on to “trying out the pen”! You can get incredible pleasure from this version of sex, given that you definitely trust, given that you have no fear and anxiety, you haven’t seen enough horrors and are ready to really prepare! And another small digression - an article for all sexual people, the main rules are consent, age and the law! Briefly about the anatomy, which is worth considering - the anus has 2 sphincters, they are located next to each other, only the outer one we relax with muscles, and the inner one relaxes reflexively. The intestines are a large corrugated tube that contracts and is cleansed using nervous vibration! And relaxing muscles and straining are 2 different processes. A little bit of non-boring psychology, I’ll give the simplest example, the eye is also a sphincter and when something gets into it, it’s unpleasant for us, however, people have been wearing lenses for years. Therefore, do not be afraid of unpleasant sensations, but note for yourself how high or low your pain threshold is. Exhale the tension all the time! Even if everything was agreed upon in advance, but the pain is severe - you cannot relax well now or you feel a shaking of anxiety throughout your whole body, stop and change the option of intimacy. You need time or effort, maybe a little later you will be ready. Basic preparation 2 mandatory points: a condom (we change it every time you change penetration) a lubricant (the more the better) And then a few features (maybe they are not for you, but they are also important ):We don’t clean ourselves with a shower, like porn stars do. Then there will be problems with the microflora. If you want 2nd penetration, we start with small forms (a sleeve, a small nozzle, a small Christmas tree - this is a toy for adults, not a tree or its household version. You should move on to simulators gradually and in increasing magnitude. Pain may be significant due to the lack of almost complete relaxation or too fast movements at the beginning. Ask your partner to enter slowly, when relaxation comes, you will both enjoy it. At first, it is ideal for the passive side to move on the active partner, and not vice versa. It is better to perform anal intercourse not more often. once a month. Don’t think that if you prepared yourself well the other day, then the muscles have stretched enough and then they will easily restore the tight compression, this is not the case - take into account the difference in the muscle structures of the body. We relax and stretch the entrance throughout the day, starting with the fingers and sleeves. , a cone or a trainer with a soft chamber (this is an attachment) is also suitable; we use it with a condom. We get used to the location of the object, the pressure, the depth of penetration. We do not prepare for something that can slip out of our hands, for example, we do not move the vibrator too far without a limiter. We do not introduce anything that can break; this applies to all vegetables, fruits, children’s toys, and office supplies. If you make a mistake and something disappears from your hands, rush to the clinic, don’t wait for it to come out on its own, don’t drink laxatives, don’t try to get something yourself. And believe me, doctors are the same people and understand what’s what. Be honest with them. A hot shower as close to the action as possible will help the muscles relax. If you're not Amber, use dark towels. Semen can have a laxative effect, if it does affect those who have not yet put on a condom. When moving to vaginal or oral sex - we change or remove the condom. If you want to prepare at the highest level - start 2-3 days in advance by changing your diet, then before bedtime the first cleanse, 8-6 hours before the second, 6 hours before we stop eating food and irritating drinks - coffee and green tea, juices. Final cleaning in 30 minutes. The range of sensations is very wide and new, so in advance.