This is what we see from social media pages. networks. At first everything is so beautiful, fabulous: he carries her in his arms, showers her with gifts, multiple romances and other related paraphernalia. And then bam and “we parted ways.” At first everything is so beautiful, fabulous: he carries her in his arms, showers her with gifts, multiple romances and other related paraphernalia. And then bam and “we separated.” Sometimes it also happens that they throw mud at each other and say how bad he and she really are. Only in life, the separation of two people is preceded by crises, misunderstanding, and no one really cares about them doesn’t want to show or talk about them. And when communicating with girls who have not had long-term relationships, this is what I observe: the first difficulties, quarrels appear, and they are immediately ready to end everything, to cut it off. But, in real intimacy there are different stages and relationships, this is not only about the candy-bouquet period. And There will inevitably be stages at which their crises occur. One of the first crises occurs when the “pink veil” falls and you begin to see a person with his characteristics and shortcomings. At this period, rationality usually comes into play, and vanilla becomes much less. And of course, it’s easier to escape. Only in a new relationship will everything be repeated exactly the same... And yes, real intimacy and love appear when you know how to go through difficult times and misunderstandings together. This is about a completely different level of understanding and trust. But while many people have only ideal pictures in front of their eyes, as it should be, the thought does not arise in their heads to start looking for new solutions, to rebuild interaction somewhere. Strong, long-term, happy relationships are about the work and investments of two. To get through crises, you need: ✅ the participation and desire of both, mastering effective communication strategies, ✅ searching for new points of contact, sometimes even new meanings. And this is not taught in school. In the families of parents, as I see, few people have learned this either; until now, not everyone is ready to go to psychologists either. We see the result. I analyze situations in the telegram channel, and in the group in contact you can also get acquainted with fascinating information. I leave links to them for you: https://t.me/+TXCm3_1Unmq8kx90https://vk.com/psiholog.zelina