A convenient person is one who serves others, first his parents and relatives, then his partner or manager, friends. He always does what he is told and never talks about his needs and what is important to him. When he only thinks about himself and his needs, he will experience an unbearable feeling of guilt and shame. Such people think in categories: “When I am convenient” for others, they love and appreciate me, when I am “inconvenient” they do not like me. Such people are convinced that they are real, with their needs and desires, and will be rejected, first of all, by their parents. This concept establishes a person’s way of life, which he uses to communicate with other people. Why does this happen? Hello from childhood! A child has parents, the most important people for him, his survival depends on them, and he is ready to adapt to their “demands” so that they accept him, love him and do not reject him. At the same time, to the detriment of oneself. Why is it difficult to adapt from “convenient” to “inconvenient”? When we put other people on our necks and when we come to the moment “I’m tired of everything, I can’t do this anymore,” we begin to adapt, other people They may not be ready for this, they may even express their dissatisfaction with such phrases as “you have changed a lot,” “it was more comfortable with you before,” they are simply not ready for this. How to stop being a “convenient” person? Choose yourself and stop focusing on other people. Accept that you are doing this for yourself and for your better life. And on this path you don’t need to fight yourself, you just need to recognize your real self, somewhere inside you know everything about yourself, but over the years of living in this concept with a mask, you have forgotten what kind of a real person you are. And be prepared that not all people from your environment will be ready for your changes and this is normal, perhaps these are not “your people”. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who do not use their individuality, but dissolve it in their beliefs and under fear of not being like everyone else. It is worth remembering that whether we are a comfortable person or an inconvenient person, we may never receive love, the difference is that when we are “comfortable” we forget about ourselves, when we are “inconvenient” we remember about ourselves. Sign up for a consultation using the link ➔ Sign up Your psychologist, Larisa DegtyarPhone - +7(926) 782-13-57My telegram channel https://t.me/degtyar_psy