If you don’t want your husband (man) to cheat, start with yourself, by changing your own attitude towards yourself and what is happening, since cheating is not a reason for divorce, but an opportunity , move to another level of relationship. And if you approach this issue correctly, then in essence your husband (man), as in a mirror image, shows you what you don’t notice in yourself, ignore, suppress, cheat on yourself in some way?! If you know about cheating on him, and at the same time, you can’t change the situation, you don’t want a divorce and at the same time you don’t want to come to terms with what’s happening, then a lot depends on you, i.e., stop talking and thinking about it yourself (checking his phone, rummaging through in his things, arrange a showdown, cheat, etc.), thereby feeding this space with your energy! What do you need this for? The wisest thing is your own indifference - not only external, but especially internal! Of course, at first this will not be easy to do, and you will even have to make an effort so that this topic becomes indifferent and uninteresting for you, which, in fact, will subsequently affect your relationship as a whole! What happened cannot be changed, but it can be changed your attitude to what is happening. How? In relation to the husband (man). Talk about your experiences and feelings, without blaming, insulting, or humiliating yourself and him. Hear his answer, whatever it may be, as well as his experiences, if he has them. And when you are both in a calm state, talk on your own or with the help of a psychologist about what is happening between you, what does not suit him about you, and vice versa, in order to understand what is happening. And this will be enough to leave him alone and not return to this incident again. In this situation, you did not ignore this fact, but legalized it, did not ignore your feelings and experiences, returned responsibility for what was happening to him and clarified the relationship. In relation to yourself. Turn around to face yourself. Start directing your energy (thoughts, feelings, state, reflections, etc.) to your beloved self. Start doing and doing what interests you or attracts your attention: passion, hobby, sport, activity aimed at realizing your desires, dreams, etc. And gradually, filling with attention, care and love for yourself, you will begin to see and feel this through his attitude towards you. Know that if you mentally think, “how ungrateful and unworthy he is, having such a wife (woman), what if anything , I will break off relations with him: I will kick him out, leave myself, thereby punishing him, etc.”, then this is also betrayal - only to yourself. And if you live with him and hear unpleasant things addressed to you, then know that you yourself allowed him to treat you like that! If you want, live with him, if you don’t want, leave, just don’t manipulate yourself and him! And don’t ask him for something he can’t give you! And if you set ultimatums, for example, “if you do this again, then I will ....”, then be responsible for the consequences of your choices yourself, making an adequate decision for yourself, based on your values ​​and priorities, in order to put an end to it, not an ellipsis. If experiences and feelings have accumulated in full and you find it difficult to cope with them, you cannot constructively clarify relationships and make the right decision, then the best solution would be to personally contact a psychologist and work through this topic with a professional.