From the author: Correct scandal. Instructions for use. We fight and make up, this is normal, and sometimes useful. A small scandal helps to “let off steam” and show the degree of dissatisfaction. Sometimes this is the most effective way to change things and shake up relationships. The main thing is not to abuse A good and effective scandal is a delicate matter, there are several rules: Rule No. 1 Do not scold a person, scold his affairs. The essence: “You are bad, that’s why you do nasty things” For example: “Only such a crooked person, how could you do that it sucks to peel potatoes” “Only fools buy Russian cars” Why not? - you humiliate the man, declaring that he is a crooked scoundrel. But this is not how! And if so, why do you need such a man? - you discourage a man from wanting to change. The logic is this: “Well, since I’m already a scoundrel, what can I take from me? I will continue in the same spirit.” How to scold: The essence: “You are good, but you do garbage. I don't like. Stop it." Example: "Look how many eyes you left in the peeled potatoes, you can be more careful, cut them out next time." "You're smart, why did you spend so much money on an old and broken car. Of course, it’s up to you to drive, but I’m very dissatisfied.”Rule No. 2 Don’t generalize When you swear, avoid generalizations. Don’t say: “all men are assholes”; “You are changing everything”; “Just give you all sex,” etc. Firstly, this is not true. Not everyone cheats, not everyone is an asshole, and not everyone needs sex. Secondly, by collecting the male sex with one brush, you, again, humiliate your man, declaring him a special case of all the vices of the Adamic race. And this is not true! And, if it’s true, why do you need such a man? Golden rule: Swear without witnesses A public showdown is the best way to ruin these very relationships. Here is a short list of places that are not suitable for a scandal1. Company of friends. By swearing in the company of friends, you: - spoil everyone's mood, - generate gossip and ruin each other's reputation, - humiliate yourself and your loved one2. In the family circle. You should not involve your relatives in the scandal, you:. - again, spoil everyone’s mood, reputation, undermine authority - you will make peace relatively quickly, and your relatives will remember and think about your behavior for a long time, draw conclusions and, probably, decide that one of you is a “radish”. Then try to convince them otherwise.3. Any public place. Don’t swear at work, in a restaurant, cinema, museum, on the street, wherever there are people besides you. - you, of course, will amuse those around you, if you try, you will become famous throughout the world (praise Youtub). Do you need such fame? - swearing in public is indecent and uncivilized - all of the above is about shame, a damaged reputation. PS The ability to control emotions is an indicator of intelligence, intelligence and mental health. Wait until you get home and swear to your heart's content, just don't break the law