The other day we touched on the topic of adolescence https://www.b17.ru/blog/428351/I received many personal messages that this period was a difficult test. But there were also messages about sources of joy and support during adolescence. I would like to thank those who wanted to share their memories. Today I propose to continue our research and remember how your parents helped you during adolescence. What exactly did they say or do to support you? And also, what caused the pain and resentment? I’ll note right away that our goal is not to find the guilty and remind our parents of everything that was wrong in our childhood. No. The goal is to help current parents of teenagers see moments that can become a resource for their children, and also pay attention to those things that can hurt them. From my good memories: I had complete freedom to choose sections and circles that were in our area. Nobody forced anything on me. I had my own personal space, and my parents always respected it. They trusted me within the established rules. Now I understand how important this was for me. From my sad memories: I often felt guilty for not living up to the ideal that my parents expected of me. They hoped for excellent academic results. And although I generally studied well, mathematics, chemistry and physics were very difficult for me. This upset the parents. I felt guilty that I was upsetting them. When we look into our adolescence, we can see important details. Understand what was most important to us, what we needed. When we realize these moments, it is easier and clearer for us to build communication with our teenage child. But, of course, we are all different. And someone may say that what was important for him in adolescence is not relevant for his teenage child now. But I'll ask you to take a slightly broader view. And see the needs hidden behind reactions and actions. For example, the need for: - Self-affirmation - Self-realization - Independence - Self-knowledge, etc. Share how your parents helped you during adolescence. And also what they did or said that caused you pain and resentment. Sincerely, Psychologist, family psychologist, relationship consultant, Lyudmila Firsova