At sessions of emotional-imaginative therapy, “educational conversations” regularly take place with images of persons who have caused real harm to a person through insults, humiliation, devaluation, coldness, ignoring, manipulation with negative messages such as “don’t feel”, “don’t live” "etc. The client, from an adult position, can express his feelings to the image of a person, rebuff the offender in the zone of free imagination, support the traumatized part of the personality and “release the harm from it.” This is how a way out of the position of the Victim with its helplessness, weakness, and lack of rights occurs. At the request of a subscriber of my blog, I provide a brief diagram of how this is done in therapy. “He (the inner child) is small, trembles all over, his mother shouts at him, insults him, what is the point,” says Vasily. “Vasily, what do you feel for the child?” - It’s warm, I want to help him. - Tell the baby about your feelings and direct the image of your warmth to the baby. This is the stage of supporting and resourcing the inner child before starting to use the “heavy artillery”. Vasily identified with the baby, now he feels much better. Then Vasily, from his adult, client’s position, told his mother what he thought about her actions: “Mom, I’m very angry. I think this is not possible with children! You are an adult, big, and your task as a parent is to protect and support your child! I’m very angry!” Vasily turns to the image of the child: “Now I’m an adult, now I will protect you and won’t hurt anyone!” The child beams and smiles. Then Vasily again identifies with the image of the boy. And finds in the body where the screams are stored , insults, humiliations from the mother. They were in the very heart and looked like needles - the boy returned the needles to his mother: “I refuse to accept them!” Mom, I return your criticism! I will no longer keep her in my heart." Then what the child lost, carrying criticism within himself, returns. From the image of the boy, Vasily represents what he repressed from himself, holding the needles. It was the heart! Self-love! Self-love returns, the child becomes somatized. The result of therapy: it has become easier for Vasily to set boundaries, his self-worth has increased, his self-confidence has increased. achieving such a result? It depends on the depth of the trauma. If a person grew up in a family where the norm was humiliation, insult, devaluation, punishment with a belt, ignoring, manipulation of grievances, guilt, shame - from one year of regular meetings it takes enough time to begin to assimilate. a new philosophy of life, new behavioral skills were formed, resources appeared to look at reality without distorting filters. How long did it take you to feel that you were on the path to growth and development?