In the previous parts, we identified the “lame area of ​​life” in which the current situation suits you the least and outlined approximate solutions. If you haven’t done this yet, then you can find Part 1 and Part 2 on the website (I’ll take it and won’t give a link here, that’s how bad I am) Based on the results of Part 2, you should have basic solutions to the problem (consisting of 1-3 subdecisions). Now you need to filter these decisions by criteria. To do this, consistently ask yourself the following questions: Is it possible to have this and why? (+3 pros) Is it worth having and why? (+3 pros) Will this really give me what I want? By the way, what do I really want? Is the game worth the candle? For example, if you see the solution to failure in a relationship (your problem) as marrying a millionaire, then you might end up with something like this... Is it possible for me to marry a millionaire? -I think so, because: I am pretty and have success with men; I am cultured and educated; I have one such millionaire in mind. Should I marry a millionaire? -Probably worth it, because: “Such a card will work right away...” with living in a huge country house among a coniferous forest, which is so beautiful on a summer morning.. This guarantees me financial security. I will be able to do what I love for my own pleasure, and not sit in a stuffy office. Will this really give me what I want? – I think so.. By the way, what do I really want? – Eh.. in fact, I just want love with a person close to me in spirit. And these millionaires tend to change girls like gloves. Congratulations, this is your TRUE NEED, and everything previous is a deception. Therefore, now you are firmly convinced that achieving your true goal is worth the effort and time spent. As a result, take those goals that have passed the test to work to get your present, good, eternal... And that’s all? So simple? You ask. Of course, because everything ingenious is simple. Another question is what exactly and how exactly will you do to achieve this goal? Do you have enough internal resources (self-confidence, activity, openness to new things, etc.) and will there be any obstacles in the way (fears, anxiety, laziness). However, this can also be solved with the help of psychotherapy and quite successfully. But, as they say, this is a completely different story... Based on the book by S.V. Kovalev “Neurotransforming. Basics of self-consultation". Sitalev Denis Lvovichpsychologist-psychotherapistsitalev.ru