How to act in general when feeling helpless? 🔽It is very important to ask for support and ask for support from exactly those people who can give the quality of support you need at the moment. For example, when a couple goes through a crisis, both partners are in need of support from each other, however, each of them does not have the resource to give this support. If one of the partners finds strength in themselves and gives this support, tension in the couple can increase, because the one who gave the support feels violated. Because he didn’t have the strength anyway, he had to give more than he could, and this feeling arises like “I did this and that for you, but you don’t do anything for me.” The crisis is thus growing. It is very important to ask for support from a person who is himself a resource, who is ready to give this support in the volume and quality that you need. This could be a friend, relative, colleague or psychologist. When you can't do something at work, what do you do? You go Google, study, ask a colleague how to solve a problem, right? Usually work issues are among the simplest in the sense of feeling helpless: I can’t do it, but I have to = I’m asking for help. Of course, if relationships with employees, colleagues, and relationships in the company in general are built correctly and trustingly. What else can be done about helplessness? 🔽I very often talk about the notorious self-reliance. Self-reliance is the feeling that I can handle it. It is usually said that when you feel helpless or powerless, you should not withdraw into yourself. My personal example: when I have some difficult situation in my life, the amount of resources I have is very limited, I reduce the number of social contacts. Therefore, in moments of experiencing powerlessness, it is more important for me to have effective help: for people with whom I feel comfortable to come to my home, buy me food/clean the house, or help me with those things that I cannot handle. The view of cognitive behavioral therapy and gestalt on helplessness 🔽Cognitive behavioral therapy believes that everything comes from our thinking. If we believe that we are at a dead end, if our thoughts support this feeling, pumping it up, then we will feel that we are at a dead end and we have no way out 📍. At such moments, it is important to think: “what else can I do? what else can I do? what would be the best solution? how to do it? What resources do I need for this? Focusing on finding a solution and moving on is always more beneficial than focusing on what is happening right now. However, Gestalt therapy will disagree with me and cognitive behavioral therapy. In Gestalt, feeling is primary and it is very important to experience everything that happens in the moment here now. They would probably advise you to live a quality life and this powerlessness too. Try to change this state, accept and live it, I don’t run away from my feelings. And this can also be very productive 📍. Our feelings give us additional information that our consciousness did not process, but our subconscious processed ➡ the more we ignore our feelings, the more intense they become. In order not to fall completely into a state of hopelessness and helplessness, it is important to limit the time when you live it. Try setting an alarm every day and accepting this feeling ➡ your body will get used to a certain decibel of tension and will experience it much easier. Helplessness in relationships 📍I said earlier that in a relationship we meet the boundaries of another person and the boundaries of what we can do influence. Ideally, when we enter into a relationship, we show who we are, and the other person also shows who he is, and we merge in one ecstasy. BUT how often does this happen? Almost never... In relationships with another person, we often encounter a feeling of helplessness. This can happen in pathological relationships: when our partner is afraid of us....💬