From the author: Divorce proceedings are one of the most stressful events in life, how to survive a divorce, here are some tips from a psychologist. Whether your marriage lasted several years or decades, adapting to an existence without a spouse is not easy. How to overcome hurt, disappointment, pain of betrayal, confusion and anger. What to do to restore emotional well-being and survive while caring for yourself and your children. The process of separation is filled with grief because it is a kind of death. This is the death of a family unit, a structure, a way of being, a perception of oneself in the world. There is so much to physically recalibrate and change your mind. How to survive a divorce - advice from a psychologist Depending on how you cope, happiness may return to your home, or your emotions may consume you and your mental health will spin out of control. If you don't manage stress and negative feelings, the consequences can be very serious. You may develop trust issues that will make it difficult to develop new love relationships, and your self-confidence and self-esteem may suffer. Here are some tips to help you cope, and even thrive, in the future. The most important thing now is to reduce stress, learn to relax and let go of the situation. Try to be more active and move forward instead of being stuck in a negative space. Cooperation, connection and mediation The end of a family idyll is usually accompanied by a storm of emotions, including anger, grief, anxiety, fear. Sometimes these feelings can overtake you at the most inopportune moment. This reaction is quite normal and its intensity will weaken over time. Be kind and compassionate to yourself, this will make it easier for you to manage the situation. Take care of your emotional needs. Allow yourself to feel, it has a big impact on the quality of our lives. Emotions must have an outlet, both negative and positive. Avoid destructive activities, such as using alcohol or drugs, to suppress your feelings. Do not choose the path of sacrifice, revenge or insulting your spouse. Even if meeting your ex is the worst thing you can imagine today. A constructive conversation and the search for a compromise, conflict-free solution is simply necessary, especially if the couple has children. They need support from you, and perhaps the help of a psychologist or psychotherapist, since adults are often so absorbed in their grief that they ignore the emotional state of children. They, in turn, may experience fear, pain, loss, and guilt. When mom and dad are aggressive with each other, the child may feel even more afraid. And a child who often hears his parents arguing about who he will live with may decide that he is not wanted or that he is to blame for the breakup. Having an open conversation about your feelings about any problems that arise as a result of the divorce will help you process your problems more easily. emotions and adapt better to change.Take care of yourselfThe changes caused by a breakup can be overwhelming. But now more than ever, it's important to take care of yourself. Seek help from family and friends. Psychotherapeutic groups can also help you cope with emotional difficulties. Try to be active, nothing helps to cope with negativity like physical activity, it relieves tension and anger. Keep yourself fit, regular exercise is the best way to improve your mood. Do something that you always liked, but didn’t have time for. Or try a new activity. Do this. What lifts your spirits. Take a hot bath, go to a movie, surround yourself with positive people. Surround yourself with things that will improve your self-esteem and self-respect during these difficult times. Let go of problems that are beyond your control. If you are faced with an uncomfortable or painful situation, learn to let it go, take the time to figure out what is best.