From the author: Original article: Perhaps no psychological problem has such a destructive effect on people as internal passivity. This is a common problem from which no one is immune. Worse, internal passivity is fundamentally deceptive. We hide it from ourselves, without even suspecting that we are doing it. Are you ready to move forward, seeing your inner passivity? If yes, then read on! Internal passivity is a tendency to test what you have in mind and are trying to implement, inclining to the idea that someone else would do it for you. Inner passivity is the most discouraging thing imaginable, as it takes you out of everyday life and turns you into a victim. When something happens to you, without your knowledge, leaving you no choice, freedom, hope, it does not give you the opportunity to realize your ideas and goals. Many things happen without our knowledge. It may rain, the car may break down, the dollar may fall. We don't choose it all. However, most chronic emotional suffering is experienced in the same way - passively - although it is anything but a passive process. Here are some examples: Passive: At the end of the month, I never have money to make ends meet. Truth: I'm spending more money than usual. Passive: My laziness is really holding me back. Truth: I would rather lie down than be active and willing to compromise. Passive: This donut looked so good that I just had to eat it (as if the donut overpowered me and forced myself to eat it!). Truth: I ate a donut. Inner passivity is a trick of our children and can be subtly creative. For example: Brother sometimes hits his sister. Why are you doing this, I ask him, and the answer is: I didn’t do anything. She just bumped into my hand. Inner passivity knows no bounds. It permeates our every free minute, waiting for the moment to throw us out of the rut of life, making us a victim of circumstances. Sometimes this can be a useful manipulation, especially when it comes to making excuses and avoiding punishment, but even in this case, passivity returns to us like a boomerang, preventing us from improving our lives in any way. We say a lot from a passive position: I can’t; This makes no sense; No questions asked; Nothing can be done here; This is impossible; There is no hope; Everyone does it. Get yourself a notebook and try to track your inner passivity for just one day. How many times can you catch yourself thinking about speaking and acting from a position of inner passivity? How many times can you notice yourself in the position of a victim (having done something, you make it look like someone else did it)? Having completed this task, you may be very surprised. Author: psychologist-psychotherapist Gaskov Pavel Vasilievich