First, let's immediately state that it is normal to be attracted to other people. Before you got into a relationship, were you okay with liking different people? And now, for some reason, you should stop liking them? Why would this be? Secondly: feelings, thoughts, fantasies are not actions. You can fantasize in your head as much as you like, imagining yourself in the most intimate situations with the object of your fantasies, but do not translate this into action. Yes, the temptation to translate this into action can be high, but do not forget that fantasies are often idealized, which is why they are so attractive. Now about the difficulties that people often have when they are faced with a very strong desire to change. This could be a very specific person who constantly flashes somewhere nearby, it could be online correspondence with one or more people, etc. The reasons why you want to change can be divided into two groups: I. You have problems in your relationship and therefore you try to compensate for this outside of the relationship - This is a place to reflect on the topic of whether it is possible to turn these desires into a compass that highlights the pain points in your relationship? - Do you want to work on these problems? But I want to focus on the second group: II. You want novelty, butterflies, emotions, admiration or some kind of secret, “just your own” life. - Yes, to some extent you can make up for this a little in your relationship. For example, create non-standard, unusual conditions for you as a couple, where you will experience new emotions. Dating in new places, traveling, introducing new elements, places, role-playing games, etc. into sex. But let's be honest, this is not the same as the thrill of emerging feelings and growing emotional and sexual tension in a new relationship. And if you want to maintain a long-term monogamous relationship with your partner, then you must understand that this is the sacrifice you are making. You are sacrificing novelty and that special thrill in exchange for security, stability and deep emotional connection. - If you dig deeper, then this about the insoluble conflict and dilemma of every person. You want security, predictability, calmness, confidence in the future, but at the same time, you want excitement, uncertainty, adventure, novelty and sometimes even drama and danger. To summarize, I would like to say that any desires, feelings, experiences that you you live now - they are absolutely legitimate and have the right to exist. If you give up the idea that there are some “wrong” feelings or desires, then it becomes possible to gain the freedom not to run away from it, not to deny it in yourself, not to suppress it, but to allow yourself to explore it. You can dive headfirst into this experience and live it, or you can give these feelings and desires the freedom to choose any path and just observe it. To change or not to change - the choice will still be yours. There is also a price for treason. If this article is close to you and you would like to dig deeper, then come to a free installation session. Similar information on my page: https://www.b17.ru/?prt=mariatarver