Most often, several things stop girls from getting to know each other first: - “well, I’m a girl, I have to wait for someone to approach me”; - “what if he’s one of those who thinks that a girl shouldn’t meet first”; - “I’ll come up to you.” , but he won’t want to communicate with me and everyone will see it and, in general, maybe he already has a girlfriend.” When you come for the first time, for example, to an English course or to a climbing wall, or to a new job and, let’s say, young people come up to meet you, do you think that they have chosen you based on your gender and want a serious relationship with you? Hardly. Most likely, you will think that he came over because he just wants to chat. Then where did you get the idea that if you approach a young man during a break during a Spanish course, he will think that you want to marry him? When you meet, for example, a roommate at university, you are probably motivated by the fact that you just want to communicate with someone; if you miss a lecture, you will have someone to ask for a notebook to rewrite the material, you can go to lunch together or after together to go to the metro for classes... is it possible to get to know your desk neighbor for the same purposes? You are sitting in a cafe and scrolling through Instagram*, at the next table a pleasant young man has been “hypnotizing” his laptop for a quarter of an hour and finishing his cold latte, not paying any attention to you. Let's try to guess how events will develop if you tell him something like: “Excuse me, do you happen to have a lavender latte? I’ve never taken it here...” And yes, let's be clear: even if a young man seems attractive to you, it is unlikely that you consider him as a life partner simply because you are seeing him for the first time in your life. This means that your goal is simply to communicate or make new friends. Moreover, perhaps he looks attractive simply because he is silent))) and after a couple of minutes of communication with him, you will have “urgent matters”. Or maybe, after talking with him, you decide that he is good as a friend, with whom there is something to talk about, but nothing more, and then you can exchange contacts. So, let's say that he has a girlfriend, then most likely he will answer that he has an Americano or will hastily say “no”. But will this mean that he didn’t like you? Answer: no, because he didn’t evaluate you, because he has a girlfriend. Can his answer be regarded as that you were rejected? Answer: no, because he has a girlfriend and, for example, he adheres to the principle of minimizing communication with other girls. Let’s assume that he doesn’t have a girlfriend, then why doesn’t he make contact? For example, because he recently experienced a difficult breakup and is not ready for a relationship, or he has the conviction that he first needs to finish his studies, find a job, and then deal with his personal life, or he is not at all interested in the opposite sex, or maybe he has a deadline for submitting a coursework, etc. As you can see, the reasons why young people, just like girls, do not always make contact do not simply come down to the fact that they did not like the person who approached them. Then what do you lose if you contact a young man and receive a monosyllabic answer? You don’t lose anything, but you take a small step towards confidence: I did it! And if a young man, having heard your question, begins to tell you where the most delicious lavender latte is, then what do you buy? In addition to the confidence that you are perceived positively, you gain at least the experience of easy communication, and at most a new acquaintance. And, who knows, maybe he will be a great friend for you, or maybe he will become your other half. You choose where to study, where to work, you choose your friends, your pet, that is, you create a comfortable and safe space around you, then why in choosing a partner for life do you rely on someone who will choose or not choose you and perhaps , will not choose simply because he does not dare to approach you? Are you ready to rely on fate or risk taking on the situation?.