From the author: - If you cannot change the situation, change your attitude towards it. - Okay, but how? A person perceives objects holistically, without isolating individual parts, pure sensations or individual characteristics. These are gestalts - a phenomenon that has a special quality compared to the sum of its parts, a generalized perception. The individual parts that make up an object in NLP are called submodalities - in this case visual: color, brightness, shape, size, contrast, focus, depth, volume, etc. Any situation, experience or problem can be described in visual submodalities, through a channel the perception of "seeing". By changing submodalities, you can reprogram experience, thereby changing the notorious attitude towards the situation and your state. You can do complex things this way. You can soften images of dead people to reduce pain. Change the images of those with whom you fell in love or broke up to reduce the severity of your experiences. There is an expression that time heals. With the help of certain techniques this can be done now..