"I CAN'T do anything with her pressure, she constantly presses, imposes, I can't interrupt!" , where are you? Instead of you there is “I can’t”. You try to talk, she again pushes, dumps, interrupts, that is, there is no stable position here. You give it to her! As a victim - NOW EVERYTHING DEPENDS ON WHO IS IN FRONT OF YOU. Most often, the victim cannot do, feel, define, cope with feelings, she fails and she waits and waits, suffers calling for help. Let's figure out what a victim is. Let’s say they tied you up, threw you into a basement, forced you to work for free, tied you to a radiator - that’s a sacrifice. Look, is this so? Is everything exactly like this for you? Or are you still suffering, but in the apartment, there is light and water, food and loved ones, while you are an adult? If so, you are not a victim. So this is your own decision, to give her the opportunity to impose something on you, to put pressure on you, to listen to her? This means you independently choose the position of the victim. If you cannot even get a word in, but in front of you the mother-in-law is acceptable. So who are you to her at this moment? Someone close, like an adult daughter. So she is older than you in rank, it’s right that you listen to her, but don’t fall into victimhood. Then how can you answer? You can, of course, endure for years everything that people leak, accumulate anger, resentment, be afraid to answer and end up getting sick. Make an appointment with expensive doctors, check your hormones, buy expensive medications and still get sick. Since it’s not a matter of hormones or a disease, but the fact that you allow yourself to be oppressed and this is an INDEPENDENT CHOICE! There is also one convenient way out: don’t think about becoming a victim and suffer, and then help me write. Do something with her for me. Do something with her to finally free me from her presence. But then another attacker will appear, let’s say a colleague at work, the same thing will happen there. At home, your husband will force you to become a victim. A child will make you feel unhappy. This is how fairy tales about poor Cinderella appeared, from the position of a victim. If a person often falls into the position of a victim, into a position of taking, expecting something from someone, then he does not notice it. The only thing noticeable about him is that he blames, condemns, waits, suffers, gets sick, etc. No matter how hard I try to explain in this post what and how, it will not help him. Here it is better to go to a specialist and start serious work on your internal state, with the goal of showing love for yourself and your health. If a person periodically falls into the state of “I’m waiting, give me, and first you,” then it is quite possible that an outside glance may help him help and these explanations will be of great help. This article was published by another psychologist this year, on this site. But! After I wrote it on VK. Olga Ilyicheva - psychologist, author of the article. Contact me, I’ll be glad to help. Subscribe to my group, subscribe, a lot of useful things.🙌