They are instilled in them from childhood. They do not evaporate, do not disappear, do not dissolve. And they continue to live inside the body. Or souls. And they do their destructive work. At first we get used to the fact that: - not a good, not ideal, not correct daughter - son - disappointed her parents - did not live up to their hopes - did not save them - did not make their life better - should and is obliged for what they gave birth to, raised, taught - did not give, didn’t remain silent, didn’t finish, didn’t have time - I hide from everyone that I’m actually angry with my parents - I hide from everyone that I don’t accept and don’t love my parents - I hide from everyone that I’m ashamed and embarrassed by them - I couldn’t, I didn’t deserve, I didn’t worthy of their love. Growing up, we continue to carry this pain into relationships, professions, and society. We are trying to relieve the pain, to escape from it. And again we come across what I described above. And so on in a circle. A persistent feeling of unworthiness and “eternal wrongness” is formed. Confidence in oneself is broken - I can do it, I can handle it, I can do it. Hope for good and better things ahead is broken. Instead, “I’m a failure”, “everything is bad for me”, “why is this suffering”, “but I don’t deserve anything else, if mom and dad didn’t fall in love, then who will...” Yes, guilt and shame is so dangerous and destructive. This is a funnel of suffering that only grows with age. Because you begin to understand, but time flies... And what was difficult between you and your parents, unspoken, unsaid, misunderstood, remains so. And it doesn’t move anywhere. The mask “Good, correct, ideal daughter, son” hides loneliness, rejection, lack of love. And the stronger the guilt and shame in front of the parents, the stronger the connection and emotional dependence on them. Even if the parents live far away or have not been around for a long time. How to begin to part with these difficult experiences? You can do the arrangement “Guilt and Shame. Liberation." Until May 1, there is a 22% discount on it. Or take three-month “Healing Relationships” programs for both mom and dad. What do you feel guilty or ashamed about in your relationship with your mom or dad??