From the author: Having a rich inner world, know how to “emerge” from it in time into the outer world. Basically, this question is asked to a person who is or was once interested in psychology. But there are people who are inexperienced in psychology, but who know the value of their emotions and do not limit themselves in their manifestation. Experts will say: it’s not about the emotions themselves, but about their intensity, the degree of “intensity”. And I partially agree with them. However... A long time ago, when I began to be interested in psychology, I was surprised to discover that there are much more emotions than “good” and “bad” (of course, I distinguished them semantically, but inside they were clearly divided into “I feel bad” and “I feel good”). After a certain time, I began to distinguish shades of emotions in myself and even their seemingly paradoxical combinations. This is evidence of the rich diversity of a person’s inner world, which means that he is alive, feeling that reality is multifaceted and unknowable, etc. and so on. This knowledge excited and inspired me! But with time and practice, I increasingly began to meet people on my life’s path who are well versed in WHAT they feel, who can describe in detail and colorfully all the vicissitudes of their inner world, who respect it, who listen to themselves. Those who think that “I feel this way and I can’t help it. I can, of course, drown out my emotions, but they will still show up one way or another. Therefore, I will work on myself, but for now I feel what I feel.” And I generally agree with these arguments. But for some reason, people who listen intensely to their emotions often have problems in relationships. And what is primary and what is secondary in this phrase, I don’t know. “But this is how I feel” from one person collides with “these are my emotions, I can’t stop feeling them” from another. The reason for this conflict in relationships is a typical thinking error - “emotional justification”, i.e. the belief that something must be true only because a person “feels” (in fact, believes) it so strongly that he ignores or discounts evidence to the contrary. A person can learn this aspect of self-attitude unconsciously, but of particular interest are the people who come to this consciously, deciding to pay more attention to oneself, to know oneself, to follow the path of self-actualization, etc. Psychology (especially popular) often encourages the reader to listen to oneself and I cannot deny the importance of this postulate. At the same time, I would like to emphasize that it is no less important to listen to others: without judgment, without attempts at interpretation, without the emotional filter “he is bad (as an option “he offended me”, “he cannot cope with his life on his own”, “he is not mature enough or empathetic enough”, etc.). ), so I won’t listen to him.” And you also need to listen (or look closely) to objective reality, to the view from the outside. By listening to your emotions and feelings, a person interacts with the category “Id” or, if you like, the “Inner Child”. In some cases, one person's Inner Child, while sweet and interesting to the owner, becomes unbearable to other people. He can manipulate, he can roar, he can yell. By encouraging it, you can completely lose contact with the world. Thus, having turned on your emotions to the fullest, it is important to fully turn on internal control. It is important to understand that feelings and emotions are not forever. Moreover, they can be completely subjective. That you cannot act based only on feelings and emotions (whatever they may be). And that you can’t use them to cover up your inability to establish relationships..