Sometimes it happens that communication is at the wrong time, not at the right time, or there is simply too much of it. And it happens that if we refuse to communicate, then the person who wants to communicate gets offended, and sometimes I really want to explain to him: “I’m not rejecting you, but the inconvenient time of communication, inconvenient methods, inconvenient energy costs.” In some meme I came across the concept of “social battery”, which I would really like to officially introduce, indicating to them the limit of communication for which there is enough energy, and which everyone has their own. Nikolai Linde, speaking about emotional dependence, uses the concept of “investment” - those emotions, dreams, intentions (energy) that a lover (love addict) invests, that is, invests in a relationship. At the same time, the investor really does not like it when a friend or loved one does not respond to messages, does not call, ignores or does not come (or is not present much). Because this is all not about a friend - but about him, an “investor”, attentive and waiting, who in this regard feels his own disadvantage (“What if I’m not good enough?”). And he tries to “be better”, pay even more attention, guess and please. But what does it feel like for someone who is invested in, and who subsequently rejects it? Why does he push away and limit communication with someone who is diligent? Yes, perhaps boring, perhaps intrusive, perhaps uninteresting to him specifically - here you can say “non-meeting”, this happens. But meanwhile, even the most wonderful, interesting, witty person in large quantities begins to twitch the eye. Don't believe me? How does someone you are always happy to behave like? He probably has his own interests, his own life. It gives space for manifestation and a break from oneself. Makes you miss yourself. It allows you to save and charge your “social battery”, the volume of which is different for each person. And, by the way, the consumption of the “social battery” for each person is also different. The one who is truly attentive, communicates little, without seeing a reaction, allows himself to rest, to manifest himself, to take a step, too, and does not take the “you love him” pose - he is energy-saving. And someone who constantly provides a lot of information, speaks or writes, and demands an answer is energy-consuming. Because a reaction requires the expenditure of energy, and if there are too many people actively knocking it out, at some point they stop responding to him. It is then that he thinks that he is being rejected, but they are rejecting him not so much as the inconvenient amount of communication - they are simply preserving the volume of the “social battery”. “Love is given, not beaten out.” And they don’t knock you out or beg for it. And they give it to themselves too. And if there is a lack of love, you can and should give it to yourself first, because loving yourself for another is a failure..