Sometimes in life the situation develops in such a way that we experience unrequited love. The object of our love is inaccessible, but longing for him gnaws from within. And it also happens that, unfortunately, a person dear to us has left, died, but we continue to grieve... True, there are not such bright options. Often we cannot forget the offender, the person who caused us pain and damage. Hatred gnaws just like melancholy. But in reality, nothing can be changed, and nothing can be done. I offer you a technique that you can do yourself, which helps in such situations. The technique is based on visualization and helps to get rid of emotional dependence and attachment, be it melancholy or hatred. There is a concept of “love spell”, in this case it will be a “turn” of oneself, so as not to experience disturbing emotions. The technique is not fast, but effective. Make sure in advance that no one disturbs you while you are doing it. Immediate advice to those who are bad with visualization: you can imagine using the “as if” principle, the main thing is to keep the corresponding state within yourself. First, decide what you want to work with. It should be just one person, one situation. Now try to imagine this person as clearly as possible. And place him mentally in the space in front of you - imagine this person anywhere, starting from the place directly in front of you and to the left. By no means to your right. Describe it for yourself: what does it look like in your mind now? What is the position - sitting, standing? The expression on his face, where he is looking. What he’s wearing, etc. Calibrate the image in great detail! If this is not done, the work may not go further. How does he look at you or not? What is he doing? How does this make you feel? Describe all your feelings about the image in detail! Have you heard expressions about someone in your life: “They are connected by…”, “they have a connection”, “don’t get involved”, etc.? In language, the word “connection” is very often used to describe relationships between people. But only material things can bind: threads, ropes, chains, etc. And yet, you understand that you are also connected with this person by certain, and maybe difficult, feelings, memories, experiences for you... Please look into the space between you and this person whom you presented in front of you. And imagine that something really connects you, but visualize it with something material. For example, ropes, threads, rays, magnetic fields... whatever. But the main thing is what your imagination and unconscious tells you. Trust your unconscious, even if it is a bizarre image for you. Let this image of a connection appear between you. Now notice where this connection comes from your body and where it attaches to the imaginary body of a person. Thank your unconscious for its work! Despite the fact that this connection between you causes you unpleasant experiences, nevertheless, there is something very important in it for you. Otherwise, she would not have been so strong, and you would have already let this person go. Often difficult experiences can teach a person more than joyful ones. And bitter experience or an enemy can teach you more than the smartest books. This is your experience. What is valuable and important does this connection do for you? What have you learned in life thanks to her? What new experience? What was the learning experience? (even if you were harmed, you still have useful experience now on how to deal with such situations - what to do and what not to do). What have you learned? What do you value now because of what you experienced with this person? Say this out loud in detail, looking at the imaginary image of this person. It is not necessary to thank him himself. You can use these words: “Thanks to our connection, I became..., I understood..., I now...”. At the same time, this is not about something positive, bitter experience is also worthy of gratitude, even if you say: “Thanks to our connection, I am no longer such a naive fool who believes such things.”how are you." Thank the unconscious for its work too! Now let's wish positive changes to this person and create a new image for him. If this is a deceased person, then still create the image the way you would like to leave it for yourself - maybe so that it would be younger, healthier, etc. If you felt negative towards this person, then create an ideal image of him for yourself - how he could be different, without causing damage. Maybe you will want to make him better. , so that the problematic person realizes his mistakes. Place this image in the space in front of you to the left of the previous image. “Improve” the new ideal image until it suits you, and also so that it suits the “first” image that you created. .Ask mentally the “real” one (i.e. the first image) whether he likes his ideal image? Ask these two “people” to get to know each other better, get comfortable with each other, get used to each other. Watch how this happens in yours. imagination. Don't do it hastily. Wait for them to somehow come together, and not ignore each other, so that there are counter responses from both. Then ask them to wait a little. Now please create an ideal image of yourself. Place this image on the right in front of you. Start with a description of the appearance you want (but based on real needs, of course). What position are you in, how are you dressed? Facial expression. This is you, but more perfect, having achieved the development of your abilities and capabilities, a certain ideal for you today. Now fill the external image with internal content. What kind of person would you like to be? Character traits, capabilities, abilities? Very detailed! Now remember that new experience, those new qualities that you acquired thanks to your connection with that person. (what they thanked for). Add these qualities too. Let this image become more alive and vibrant for you. And now let him also wait with us a little. Now, please, return to the original image of that person and your connection with him. Remember what the connection looks like, how it is attached to your bodies. Find a place on this connection, about 2/3 away from you. And at this point, open this connection in any convenient way imaginable for you: simply open, cut, cut, etc. Now take part of the connection that comes from the person and connect it with his ideal image at the same level at which it comes out of the first image (for example, from the stomach of one to the same place in the stomach of the other). And now let the “real” person through this connection enter into the “ideal” one. They should turn into one image. We wish him to be as ideal as possible. When we get one image, we mentally send it to that real person in life with whom we are working on a relationship, wherever he is now. Let this image “fly away”, go to him as your good wishes. If this is a deceased person, then say goodbye to him and send the image to the upper left corner, “to heaven.” Wait until the image goes away completely. He should no longer be in your field of vision, not even in your imagination. Now look at your ideal image. Do you like him? Is there anything else you would like to add? Then do it. Now look at your remaining connection. And now take it and connect the end of your connection with the ideal image of yourself at the same level at which it comes from you. And as the connection between you connects and unfolds, it can transform into something else or change in some way. Become more pleasant to you. Let the unconscious again choose convenient and comfortable material for this connection. Now is an important stage: start breathing deeply and with each breath imagine that you are breathing this connection inside yourself, into the body. Those. in the place where it is formed, it goes inside with each breath, and at the same time the ideal image approaches you with this breath. And the moment will come when you literally “breathe” the image into yourself completely, it will enter you. At the same time, close your eyes. Imagine that this.