It happens that clients who have experienced a divorce or separation from a partner come to me in order to understand how they can protect themselves from separation in a new relationship. They are so frightened by the thought of that they may again find themselves in a situation of divorce, that they involuntarily come to the conclusion: I’d better not enter into any relationship at all, so as not to make a mistake again and not experience all this horror. Such clients very much remind me of the lady in the garden from one short story , which I will share in this article. Artist Gregory Frank Harris “Woman and Flowers” ​​In a small garden there was an alley with beautiful climbing roses (rose garden). The owner of this garden loved to take care of the garden, but she paid special attention to the rose garden. All her time she was puzzled by the fact that she cut off each withered flower with pruning shears, putting them in a basket. She believed that the rose garden should always look delightful and breathe freshness! And then one day she was walking through her rose garden without pruners and a basket. - What happened? She smiled and said: - It was thanks to you that I understood and realized how much my desire to get rid of everyone fading rose flowers were...dangerous! Among the fresh roses, fragrant with the most delicate aroma, shining in different shades, I managed to see only fading flowers. I was so carried away by these flaws that I stopped noticing the beauty of the whole rose garden! Therefore, I decided to care for the rose bushes only once a day, and the rest of the time I admire them! Like the lady in the story, people often notice and focus on the “bad” aspects of an event. They decided that now there is no place for pleasure and relaxation in their life. However, while they direct all their focus on how to avoid mistakes and pain, life passes them by. Conclusion: after a divorce or separation from a partner, it is very important to highlight for yourself not only mistakes and mistakes in relationships and getting hung up on them, trying to trim them like fading flowers - this is inevitable - sooner or later all the flowers will wither and the rose garden will rest, gaining strength for the new season. With our clients, we learn to see the whole rose bush, enjoy its beauty and aroma, fragrance, shifting the focus of attention to what can contribute to their well-being, joy, pleasure in a new life, with or without a new partner. And then it becomes less scary to meet new partners and enter into relationships without expecting a catch or a breakup. Dear readers, what conclusions did the story in the article lead you to??