You are reading an article from a series of abstract articles. In my opinion, there are a number of books that are effective for self-help. They are generally understandable to a reader who is far from psychology. And yet, to start reading them, you need to make up your mind. Making a conscious choice not to read is also quite an option. But how to choose without opening the book? I decided that in this case it would be useful to get acquainted with the summary and main ideas of the book. And then everyone will decide for themselves. (My opinion or reasoning is indicated in parentheses with reference to E.Yu.) What are we reading today? Janet J. Voititz Adult children of alcoholics: Family Work Relationships. Start in the articles: Adult children of alcoholics 1-9Chapter 2. What is happening to you now. (continued) Adult children of alcoholics react strongly to changes they cannot control. As a child, your life was chaotic, and you learned to control it and your environment. As a result, you may be accused of being overly controlling. The reason for your control is fear - the fear that the situation will begin to change and you will not be able to change anything. The reason is your traumatic past experiences. When you look back at your control, it often seems stupid to you. But, being in the epicenter of the situation, you are not able to loosen control. Adult children of alcoholics are constantly looking for approval and confirmation of their own importance. What a child hears about himself in childhood from significant people becomes, over the years, his own idea of ​​himself. There was a lot of contradiction in what you heard from your parents. And now you don't know what you are. You were not told directly and unequivocally that you are good, and you are not used to hearing this - it is difficult for you to accept positive feedback and it hurts you to accept negative feedback. Adult children of alcoholics feel different from everyone else. To some extent, this is true. After all, they have characteristic features. But they are not as “different” as they think. ACA seems to be that in any group of people everyone is comfortable except them. Even if this is a group of the same ACAs. The feeling of alienation is not always realized, it is built into their picture of the world. If all this is familiar to you and bothers you, call 8-921-919-85-59, I work in person and online