In my previous articles, I wrote about the importance of the constant presence of parents or other people to whom the child is attached until the age of three years (until the moment of psychological birth). Ideally, even if the child spends most of his time with his mother, the father also takes part in the child’s life from the first days of life and the child also develops an attachment to the father. Attachment can also be formed towards other family members (grandmother, aunt, brother, sister...). In this article I will write about how parents should behave if one of them needs to be absent, and the child is upset by his departure. A child may be upset by the departure of his parents even at an older age. It is especially difficult for a child to bear the departure of a parent who spends most of his time with him. More often than not, this parent is a mother. I know that there are many mothers who have small children and work. Including on this site. I am that kind of mother too. In the evenings, I leave my two-year-old daughter with her dad or grandmother, and I go to work (conduct psychotherapy). Sometimes parents have to leave their child with a nanny due to various circumstances. The child is upset by the departure of the parent, what should the parent, grandmother, or nanny with whom the child was left do in this case? Support the child. Do not try to condemn the absence of a parent, but at the same time comfort the child. Say that without the parent the child’s needs will be met. Try to explain in an accessible way the reason for the parent’s absence to the child. • Tell the child that the parent will return. • Tell the absent parent after returning about how the child dealt with the separation. When the absent parent returns. Ask the child if everything really happened as you were told. • Support the child and offer to be with him. • Express your personal feelings about about separation from the child. • Explain to your child the reason for your absence. I hope that my recommendations will be useful for parents. If they turned out to be useful for you or you have someone to share them with, I will be very glad. Read my other articles for parents: https://www.b17.ru/selected/191/ and among them the article: Child psychological trauma : https://www.b17.ru/article/59589