From the author: The article is devoted to the problem of realizing one’s desires and taking responsibility for self-realization. In practice, I quite often have to deal with situations when the client cannot or does not want to declare and realize his desires . Those around you are given the right to guess how to do good for these people. Moreover, they always give others a head start, doing good deeds for them, hoping for an adequate response. Sometimes they give hints about their needs. But it turns out that other people are most often busy with themselves and don’t even try to understand “what the author wanted to say” about unspoken desires. In addition, these people often find it difficult to say even to themselves: “I want to get this.” Accordingly, if a desire is not formulated, it cannot be realized, and those around you simply have no chance. It's funny to watch how two such similar people interact. Accumulated unverbalized and unfulfilled needs often provoke a state of chronic resentment towards the world. The proudest are not offended, but try on the crown of martyrdom. For me, this story is about the endless trust of the universe. Apparently, there is something in this: it is no coincidence that in all cultures there are fairy tales about magic wands, lamps and other entities that fulfill the wishes of their owner, without any effort on his part. In all these fairy tales, the heroes are lucky and accidentally find this magical object, which radically changes their life. Surprisingly, most of my clients with unspoken desires consider themselves lucky people, no matter how their lives turn out. If they had anything good, it was because they were lucky. They do not value their earned achievements. During my student years, one of my friends composed “Monologue of a Dead Astronaut”: “I have always been a lucky person. I was accepted into the Higher School of Astronautics, although there was a huge competition there, and I was not much different from other applicants. After graduation, I was assigned to the most interesting place, where the most interesting flights took place. I was trusted to control the most advanced ships. I have landed on planets where no one before me could land. I always came back. And only one thought haunts me: what an amazing loser the designer of that parachute turned out to be, which did not open during my last landing. His bad luck turned out to be stronger than my luck.” If we are not interested in doing something for ourselves on our own, then there is only one thing left to do, to trust that inner being that knows how to find magic wands in the world around us. Paradoxically, this inner essence, a kind of personal God, comes to life only when a person begins to work on himself and his life. "Lucky is the one who is lucky».