Everyone knows when, in the frantic pace of life, we push our emotions and feelings away. This could be an ignored fear of an important event, which only adds to our anxiety, or an unexpressed feeling of resentment towards a loved one, which eats us from the inside while we sweetly say “everything is fine.” Even more often, we are unaware that we feel some negative emotions, much less that we need to bring them to the surface and work with them. Why is this necessary? Emotions let us know that some human need is not being met. This could be a need for love, approval or care, for example. Is this familiar to you? Let me give you an example. Misha on social media networks corresponded with a girl from work. Olya, his girlfriend, felt uneasy and asked who it was, Misha answered. Olya did not “insist” and “pressure” on Misha, not returning to this topic for some time. However, Olya’s anxiety increased and gave rise to fantasies and fears.. When Olya’s tension reached its peak, she snapped at Misha with the words “you don’t respect me” and similar illusory thoughts that took possession of her due to growing anxiety. What should we take away from this example? If Olya had listened to herself and her anxiety for the first time, she would probably have realized that she needed support from Misha. And in the belief that this is really a colleague. In the end, Ole may find the ignorance unbearable. And this is also a mental need that needs to be covered. Understanding the nature of our emotions, the root causes of their appearance, we begin to control what is happening in our lives. Noticing growing anxiety, we can understand that we need the support of loved ones before an important event, for example. And it is quite natural to feel anxious and need support. Knowing this, we stop being afraid to ask for support from loved ones. Without knowing this, over time we become overwhelmed with anxiety and fear, which can have too much of an impact on our quality of life. But by resolving this fear and closing the need for support, we train ourselves, our personality, our willpower. What is also important to understand is that you can also get support from yourself. Sometimes you need to stop, catch your breath and say the most important words of support to yourself. The most important relationship in our life is the relationship with ourselves..