«Where do children's manipulations grow legs from? “Where do children’s manipulations grow legs?” It’s no secret that parents wait for their baby’s first words with impatience and trepidation, but not everyone understands that the little one has actually been talking to you for a long time. We just can’t do it any other way yet) The child is very small, and has no other way of influencing the parents (and parents’ neighbors) other than screaming or crying. With its help, the baby not only calls on his parents for help if he needs something, but also maintains contact with the world in principle. The little one seems to be saying: “Hey mom, dad, you are so big! Take care of me, please.” and this will continue until the child says the magic word “give.” Then everything will depend on the behavior of the parents. No one has yet canceled dosed frustration, but if you show a child that “asking directly is bad,” then he will look for other options to satisfy his need in roundabout ways - manipulation, theft, etc. Many people believe that everyone manipulates. In part, this is true, only the manipulations are different. Here’s an example: a girl comes home from school and brings an A, and her mother says to her: “Oh, well done! You are a wonderful daughter, I am proud of you.” Manipulations are as varied as life itself. Manipulations can be either sincere or not, of varying degrees of awareness and not necessarily hidden. Manipulation can be aimed both at consciousness (limitation of information, selectivity of information, negative information (lies)) and at the subconscious. Manipulation can be positive, negative and neutral. Many people are convinced that they do not manipulate only because they are inattentive and are not used to monitoring the little things in their behavior and communication. But little children manipulate their parents not out of a good life. I will not give you advice, but I want to give you the following metaphor - manipulation in the family grows out of fear, deception (hypocrisy), and taboo topics. And they are fueled by contradictions between the positions of parents. Parents often think that different positions are normal: “his mother squeezed him like that, but I’d rather be strict so that he doesn’t grow up to be a slob...” - Nothing of the sort. Either you are at the same time, or what are you doing together then? The child will test the strength of the parental union more than once, and if the family is only an appearance, but there is discord inside, then don’t be surprised. Parents often naively believe that the little one still doesn’t understand anything. But modern science has proven that from early childhood, although children do not understand speech, they already feel how they relate to themselves. And they worry about how they will behave in adulthood. The child is unlikely to resort to manipulation in an atmosphere of openness and trust. When he can directly declare himself and, in case of refusal, receive an explanation and an answer to the question “why No”, and not the notorious “Because”. Thank you for your attention