Of course, sometimes a question is just a question. But even the slightest dissatisfied intonation makes it clear that the questioner has his own clear opinion about whether it was worth doing it or not and how exactly. How many quarrels begin precisely with the old question of a claim, and then people themselves sometimes do not understand why this quarrel arose . It would seem that he did or didn’t do it - this is not so important, but a quarrel can flare up as if we are talking about truly important things. After a quarrel, people may blame themselves and others for being too hot-tempered, but the main reason still eludes consciousness. And since it is not realized, it means that the same thing will be repeated again and again. The suffix “-l” is that assistant and signal flag that can warn of an emerging quarrel. It is enough to tune your hearing to recognize it, and it will be heard like a warning bell or a whistle on the railway tracks. And if quarrels arise out of nowhere, then you can pay attention to how it sounds, did it, went, put other “l” in relation to to another person. These are not even necessarily questions: even stating in a slightly dissatisfied tone “you did this” is already a conflict generator. A dissatisfied tone is a dangerous thing in itself, no matter how justified it seems to a person. Because factual validity is the same as expediency: does this tone help the other person understand his mistake, or is something the opposite happening? Such speech is an expression of displeasure with another person, and if it so happens that this person is not ready to do anything to win the speaker’s favor, then he will also be dissatisfied with such an undeserved attitude in his opinion. But the main danger is that intonation often passes by consciousness. It’s just that a person, hearing a phrase that is neutral in meaning, seems to suddenly feel angry towards the interlocutor. And even if he understands the reason for his anger, then the second person can deny that he said it somehow wrong and sincerely believe it.