I would like to share with you my case from practice, which once again proves how important it is to visualize your dreams in the smallest detail. How difficult it is for a person to simply stop in the hustle and bustle of his life and endless interactions with people and imagine his future. Just sit down, or better yet lie down, take a comfortable position, be alone with yourself and dream. And if you also put what you imagine on at least a piece of landscape paper and hang it so that every day at least a glimpse of it catches your eye, it’s just WOW! Even VOILA! This wish will definitely come true soon! But whether you can get along with it or make it stick and stay with you... that’s the question. But that is another story. In the meantime, I’m sharing my recent case from practice. The name is of course fictitious. Permission to publish was taken from the client. Masha, 26 years old, with a request to ease her state of mind and help her figure out how to live on. When she arrived, I asked: “What brought her to me,” she began her story from afar. Two years ago, her mother died and she was left alone. Some time later, an aunt died who had a minor son, who was taken into custody by his mother’s sister, the third sister, who lived with his grandmother. Masha lived alone, but after some time her nephew approached her with a request to obtain guardianship over him and asked to live with her. She agreed, and they began to live together and everything was fine. Time passes, and he does the same with Masha, returning back to his aunt and grandmother. And now Masha is not accepted into that family, as a result she remains completely alone and suffers from loneliness. First of all, I listened carefully to her entire story, using empathic and somewhere active listening techniques. Which was already psychotherapeutic, given that she cried, and thereby worked off negative emotions. Fate is not easy, like many of us. Then she put forward a hypothesis about what she heard and voiced it to the client: - Did I understand correctly, you suffer from loneliness and that your relatives do not communicate with you? - Yes. But also because I don’t have a boyfriend and it’s difficult for me to build relationships with men. They leave me, I'm too obsessive in relationships. - Do you want a man to be with you all the time? - Yes, that exists. Here is another request or hypothesis, that is, something to work with: work with the inner child, help you find your resources and transfer responsibility for your life. Determine the client’s goals and ways to achieve them. Stabilize your emotional state. I immediately began corrective action - searching for resources to change the situation. And help her look from the other side. So to speak, look for the advantages that she devalued and did not notice. So that she would realize that not everything is so bad in her life. They found out that she has her own apartment, car and bank account, and has a job. It turns out that there is a dog with whom you can walk and enjoy it. I asked her to imagine what if she didn’t have all this. How would she feel? She thought about it and realized that it was good that she had all this. And this also gives her a resource. She suggested that she try “not knocking on a closed door” (this is about relatives who do not want to see her and do not accept her), because such behavior did not give positive results, but only brings her pain and disappointment. I asked if I understood her correctly. Received confirmation. So you need to try the opposite behavior and see what happens. She offered to concentrate on her life and build it. She asked what she could do after work that would bring her pleasure, positive emotions and found a couple of options that she would think about. I did an exercise with her, “Smile,” which relaxes and fills resource. And the time came to end our consultation. At the end, I asked how she was feeling now? Masha felt much better, and we agreed to meet tomorrow and do some more work. She also made a decision!