Who is lucky in love? . in my book “When there is too much love” I recommend it to everyone to read. I am posting excerpts from the book especially for those who ask themselves exactly this question. LUCK IN LOVE Women who are lucky in love What kind of people are lucky in love? Beautiful? No, appearance, if we are not talking about extremes, that is, about beauties and women with an ugly appearance, is not as important as psychological characteristics and the degree of emotional maturity. The main thing, of course, is the quality of relationships in the parental family, in upbringing. A person can change a lot in himself through self-education. What should we strive for, what image should we sculpt? Based on medical and human experience (my own and others), I tried to determine the qualities that provide a woman with reliable and stable intimate relationships. In other words, a woman “lucky” in love is characterized by approximately the following features: She accepts herself entirely, even if she wants to change something about herself. Her attitude towards herself is based on love and respect, she constantly takes care of this and supports it. She simply values herself, and does not seek relationships to maintain self-esteem. She perceives others as they are, without trying to change them and adapt them to her needs. She does not renounce her attitude towards any aspects of life, including sexual feelings, and does not suppress any "negative" or "positive" emotions. She nurtures and "nurtures" every facet of herself: her personality, her appearance, her beliefs and values, her interests and achievements. Her self-esteem is high enough that she enjoys being in a society of men who are good just the way they are. She doesn't need to be needed by anyone to feel that she is a worthy person. She allows herself to be open and trusting with some people. She is not afraid of people getting to know her deeply, but she also does not allow herself to be exploited by people who are not interested in her well-being. She formulates questions for herself as follows: “How good is this relationship for me? Do they help me grow? Does this relationship allow me to be who I can be? “8. If the relationship causes nothing but trouble and destroys her personality, she can say: “Let him go,” and at the same time does not fall into despair. She has a circle of supportive friends, she has healthy, deep interests in life, which allows her to survive the crisis. She knows how to protect herself, her health, her well-being. She is not attracted by intense struggle in relationships, drama, chaos. She knows that stable, developing, healthy relationships exist between partners who have similar values, interests and goals. Each partner has the ability to achieve intimacy. She also knows that she deserves all the best that life has to offer her. So, the main thing is not to quarrel with yourself, accept yourself, improve yourself (not others), and then you will be able to build an intimate relationship. Women who are unlucky in love Why, why are good, attentive, devoted women so chronically unlucky? I asked this question at the beginning of the book and I think about it constantly. Women are not to blame for this. And even the circumstances of the meeting with the partner have nothing to do with it. What is more important is what kind of childhood they had, what kind of relationships they had in their parental family. This is what usually distinguishes those women who are unlucky in love: They often come from dysfunctional (unhealthy) families where their emotional needs were not met. For example, the father or mother could be an alcoholic. Women who have been cared for little begin to fill their unsatisfied need for attention with increased care for someone, especially a man with a difficult life, a man who is in great need of»)