It’s no secret that all human behavior patterns are learned in childhood. As a rule, a child adopts the behavior of an adult who is more significant to him. And here it is immediately necessary to note that if this adult has already formed as an Adult, then the child learns from him to be independent, independent, learns to set goals and knows how to achieve them, knows how to listen and hear others, knows how to cooperate with people, negotiate in pursuit of his interests and taking into account the interests of the other party, asking for help and providing help himself, accepts himself and realizes his importance, knows how to take care of himself and others, knows how to manage his emotions and withstand the emotions of other people. How important it is to be able to withstand the emotions of your own child! A little reflection: remember your childhood, when you came home in a bad mood, with some problem, for example. : quarreled with a friend or girlfriend, got a bad mark, were rude, acted out, etc. What feelings did you experience when meeting your parents? Would you like to share your disappointments with them and receive support and consolation, advice on what to do next time so as not to get into such a situation again? So, if your parents accepted you with all the joys and sorrows, then most likely you have a warm and trusting relationship with your parents who are emotionally mature. But a significant part of parents cannot accept the child’s emotions, not because they do not love their children, but because they do not know how to do this, do not want to learn, or do not at all realize the importance of satisfying this need, which greatly complicates relationships. In this case, the child experiences a feeling of inner emptiness and emotional abandonment. As an adult, he continues to experience emotional loneliness. Children in such families are forced to put on “masks” in order to please and please their parents. They do not live their own lives, children constantly seek the attention of their parents and their warm attitude, without getting what they want, they suffer greatly, experience a feeling of guilt, and in some cases, auto-aggression. Parents, in turn, manipulate their children, perhaps without realizing it. There is a role change in the family. Children become the “parents” of their parents. Signs of emotionally immature parents are their coldness towards their children, self-centeredness, the emotions of their children irritate them, or they completely close themselves off from the emotions and experiences of their children, pretending that everything is fine. The child is left alone with The result of this is the following: the child is unsure of himself; he does not know how to make decisions; he considers it shameful to express his emotions; he does not know how to interact constructively, because he considers himself unworthy; such a problem, sign up for a consultation with me. Together we will solve any issue..