The Internet is replete with techniques on the topic “How to get married”, “How to manipulate a rich husband”, and at best, this is innocent: “How to meet a man in 3 days” - to me It’s completely incomprehensible, why wait 3 days when you can just go and meet someone right now. Yes, you can object by saying that there is no interest in meeting homeless people, that a man must be special, I must like him. This is all true, but why wait 3 days? Go and do what you intend to do. Of course, we’ll immediately talk about fears: I’m embarrassed by what he’ll think of me, it’s indecent to be the first to meet a man, he’ll immediately drag me to bed - they all only have sex on their minds, ...These are typical answers, I am amused when I hear them and when I see the tragic expression on the faces of women who utter these phrases. Grown-up women who know how to make decisions achieve unimaginable goals, earn money, and suddenly, in an instant, turn into shy teenage girls with love garbage in their heads. From the state of a teenage girl, a woman begins to act, the results are clumsy, this is what allows her to say that “men are all assholes, that everything is all wrong again, I’m wearing a crown of celibacy and I need to look for a grandmother who will take it off.” Well. , there really are enough goats, and everything else is nonsense. The main mistake in this whole process is the state from which a woman makes attempts to meet a man and start a relationship. If you have the words “kindergarten - pants with straps” written on your forehead, then the man begins to feel like a perverted pedophile. Of course, he will unconsciously do everything to get out of your space. A grown man needs a grown woman. Role-playing in sex is good, many people love it - but it's only part of life. You can behave like a teenage girl when you have chosen such a game: play, have fun. And dating with the goal of starting a family is an action from the state of an adult woman who understands what she wants from life and takes care of herself and her environment. Choosing a partner is a research process that not every woman is capable of due to the fact that at the most inopportune moment, teenage values ​​and behavior patterns begin to appear. When you see the name of the training “How to meet...”, “How to attract...”, and the deadline is 3 days... 3 months, you turn on your brain and look carefully: what tricky thing do you not know to attract a man, but the author of the training knows? In fact, you know everything, you can do everything. The key is the ability to manage your condition, your emotions, and maintain self-esteem. If there are difficulties with this, then you will not solve them in 3 days. You have accumulated and accumulated difficulties over the years; difficulties are your fears, limiting beliefs, prohibitions, inability to control the situation, a tendency to hysterics or suppressing the emotions of everyone. You have spent years on all this, and in order to restart the processes, you will need time and regular support from a psychologist. Don’t be surprised when you realize that after 1.5-2 months of working with a psychologist, you began to like other men, your level of aspirations towards them has changed. This is a very good result - it means you are gradually returning to your real self. The work must be continued. In the meantime, you haven’t even started it (working with a psychologist), but the topic of self-esteem worries you, do the following: Make a detailed list of your strengths, include everything in this list. Up to your ability to make sandwiches and boil eggs “in a bag.” Imagine that you are just getting acquainted with a woman who has all the qualities that you described in paragraph 1. Place an empty chair next to you and mentally seat that same woman on it. You can give it a name yourself. And here she sits in front of you. How does this woman make you feel? – the answer to this question is very important. Do this exercise yourself and go to a psychologist with the results, don’t put this visit off for a long time. Take care of yourself. All the best.