This situation often arises when communicating in instant messengers: someone made a mistake as the recipient, someone changed their mind about asking something due to the question being irrelevant, someone deleted a message sent out of emotion. But I would like to talk to you about something else. About uncertainty. It would seem, what does this have to do with deleted messages? First things first. Girls meet on social networks and at some point the acquaintance is about to turn into a real meeting. The guy sets up this meeting, the girl reads this message and begins to think about it, not rushing to answer. The guy sees that the message has been read, but there is no answer, he finds nothing better than... to delete his message about the invitation to spend the evening together. The girl doesn’t know what to think, how to react: either he was offended that they didn’t answer him right away, either he considered the silence a delicate refusal to meet, or he became angry. It’s really unclear... Or maybe she wants to silently escape from the prospect of a meeting? There may be such a scenario, I don’t argue. But why delete the message? What will this affect? ​​This action from a man is evidence of his uncertainty, and maybe even anxiety. Therefore, in this situation, the woman who wanted to “merge” only made sure that her silence and her intuition were correct. And there are also women who saw your message, but something prevented them from answering right away, they were distracted by something more important. Yes, that’s right - as long as you are not as important to her as what really surrounds her. Then he will remember the message and respond. Or you yourself write her another message in a couple of hours. What's the problem? If you delete a message every time after you haven’t received a quick response, then a pattern of behavior called “avoiding the difficulties of social communication” will gradually become embedded in your behavior. Let’s say even she doesn’t want to meet, but wants to keep silent, what will change from that you erased your message with a virtual eraser? Especially after she saw and read it. That's right, nothing! In life we ​​cannot take back our words, although sometimes we would like to, but the virtual space gives us such an opportunity. Be careful when communicating with strangers. Take care of yourself! Sabirov Salavat. My Telegram channel: #YourpersonalpsychologistSign up for an individual consultation and we will consider in more detail the issues that concern you: +79050620750