It just so happened that I worked a lot with aggression. With my own, of course, initially. I exposed it, pacified it, restored it. What helps me deal with it in the family: First of all, the opportunity to “blow off steam.” Then analysis. And imagination. I won’t write about “blowing off steam” now, there are enough ways to do so. I have great respect and admiration for Eastern women. But Georgia is closer to me in spirit. Roots and genes are powerful things. About analysis. This is where my business coach comes in: I take a notepad and write “what makes me angry?” to every family member. I “unload” everything that is boiling from the brain. I'm writing it out. Specific actions that infuriate me and affect my well-being and inner peace. What is, what I observe, I see. (You can even carry this with you and write it down, or say into a tape recorder, “It pisses me off when you....”) Like in the movie “Anger Management.” Next, look inside yourself, in depth: “what are the needs, values, desires, etc. .d. create these feelings?” What do I need? What am I desperately missing? We turn on our egoism to the fullest and allow it to speak out, without criticism. It's important to hear your voice! Here we help our feelings and emotions. Where does so much energy come from? For what? (Admitting your vulnerability to yourself, first of all, can help you cope with the situation.) What does the other need by performing such actions, deeds, choosing such methods? (Criticism of another is an attempt to describe our needs and values ​​in a crooked way). What feelings and needs drive him? We turn on the imagination: “what will make my life better?” “What actions, events will satisfy my need?” (Here it is important to give up emotional slavery “I must strive to make my loved ones happy, I am responsible for this.” Here I use obscene language .... “pee-pee-pee”). Here it is important not to retreat into self-pity, but to show sincere empathy and support, that “this can’t happen to me,” “this needs to be stopped.” And help yourself. We say. Language of action. We cannot force the other, so it is important to say it in such a way as to enrich each other. (Remember the eastern people “Oh, the light of my eyes...” J. Or the times of Pushkin “” dear sir...” A little for relaxation, it’s very difficult). It is important to bring about change in the situation. Therefore, it is important here to refrain from condemning, accusing, obliging - it will cause even greater retaliatory aggression and the person will close down. And we need to “reveal” it and turn it in our direction. The formula is: “Name, observable action, fact, about the feelings of another in this situation, his needs. Express understanding. The desire to help find a solution. (We open it up and turn it in our direction). About our feelings “When you do this, I feel...” About your need, desire. About what solution would satisfy. Secure the agreement on a truce sheet.” At the same time it is important to agree on mutual responsibility: “What will happen if...” And step by step “build back” (a term from business). Designate your boundaries and feel them, hold them. Strengthen your self-worth and self-respect. After all, this is what such situations teach. But there is strength! The main thing is to believe! And I believe in you! You're already doing it! Of course, if the other side shows inadequacy, then it is important to find shelter. “Hide in a house” - you can build it from a blanket on your bed or behind a chair... It is important to find your own corner where you can hide from everyone, even if only the blanket separates you. But under it you can build all sorts of “muzzles.” The situation of forced self-isolation in the territory with your loved ones can become a difficult test of the strength of feelings and relationships. It exposes a lot, aggravates, but can also bring closer and reconfigure. This can be a time of healing transformation in relationships, not only with each other, but also with ourselves. Therefore, if you want to preserve the good, rebuild, balance, transform, then the main thing is attitude and support. I will be glad to help you on this fertile path to harmony and balance. Become your guide to happiness. Online consultations are a very convenient format for this..