Modern psychological research has long concluded: in therapy, it is not a specific method or approach that helps the client, it is relationships that are treated. Why are relationships the most important tool of psychotherapeutic work, and what does this even mean? The fact is that the psyche changes only through experience, that is, in living, meaningful relationships. That is why all the advice and insights from books, psychologizing - they say, “this is just an anxious type of attachment”, bring only short-term relief. But the symptom remains at this time and then everything goes according to the usual scenario. Therapy itself is a transformative relationship. But what is the difference between this relationship and all others? In everyday life, other people respond to our unconscious signals by resurrecting those (traumatic) relationships that we once had. A psychoanalytic therapist is trained not to react in the usual way, but to comprehend and explain what is happening. This happens due to the fact that the therapist is able to simultaneously be in a real relationship with you and analyze what is happening in this relationship in the here-and-now (including unconsciously). Another important component of therapy is connection and the search for meaning. Various events, feelings, thoughts, overwhelming anxieties - what previously seemed incoherent and incomprehensible suddenly turns out to be logical and connected. This allows you to rethink your history, your behavior and, ultimately, leads to changes. Another reason for the therapeutic effect is a special frame in the relationship with the therapist. Rules of work: time and place of meeting, payment, absences and vacations - all this makes therapy predictable and safe, and also creates the frustration and separation necessary for development. Therefore, the same phrase said by a mother/girlfriend/husband and a therapist is perceived differently. In addition, therapy is a long process of investing in oneself. It requires temporary, material and, most importantly, mental investment in yourself. In therapy we learn to invest interest, attention, care and concern in ourselves. Sign up for a consultation: 89834644664 Sincerely, Litvinenko K. S.