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Stephen Karpmnan published the book “Game-Free Life” in 2014, and in 2016 it was published in Russian. I strongly recommend it, because using the example of the famous dramatic triangle, he analyzes all possible forms of human interaction. In order for the analysis to be not superficial, but deep, he suggests taking into account that every person has a past, a personal history. Of course, it is the past that shapes the love for a certain position in the triangle and determines the leading games. But if we consider the game here and now, then he calls the external role transition a manifestation of the External Personality, and internal experiences and transitions based on personal history - the Internal Personality. Using the example of John’s alcoholism, these switches become clearer. Here and now, John, having drunk a fair amount, comes home and begins to insult his wife, expressing anger (taking the role of a stalker). Then, he blames alcohol for the fact that he cannot control himself (the position of the victim) and seeing his wife cry, he becomes inspired and convinces her that everything will change - he makes empty promises, moving into the role of a rescuer. His wife does not listen to him, his companions are insignificant, he returns to the position of the victim. This happens externally. Internal movements can be interpreted this way. The little boy Johnny, inside the adult John, is trying to persecute his mother for not protecting him from his father. And showing anger to his wife, inside he feels shame for not being able to stand up for himself then. When he says that alcohol is to blame for his troubles, he realizes in his internal dialogue that he is deceiving himself. And when, on the external plane, he switches from the persecutor (insulting his wife) to the victim (blaming alcohol for everything), then on the internal plane he switches from a victim (his father and a mother who did not protect him) to a persecutor of his father. And while punishing himself, he also punishes his father, realizing that he has become “like him.” S. Karpman says that sometimes the shifts along the inner and outer triangles are parallel, sometimes they are not. Also an interesting idea is that with anger we are talking about the external personality, and with depression - about the internal one. In the next article I will describe my understanding and impressions of the story about positive triangles.

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