From the author: We, women, are capable of depriving our men of success, even without wanting it. How do we do this? For what? Why? After all, we all, it would seem, want to see a strong, accomplished man next to us. We, women, are capable of depriving our men of success, even without wanting it. How do we do this? For what? Why? After all, it would seem that we all want to see a strong, accomplished man next to us. But we want this on a conscious level. However, there is a deeper layer in our psyche - the subconscious. And only God knows what kind of programs they are “sitting” there. People, as a rule, are not familiar with the contents of their subconscious until they begin to deliberately understand it. Meanwhile, it is subconscious programs, fears and attitudes that determine the quality of our lives. They turn out to be the main and leading ones. And our whole life is the satisfaction of subconscious programs. Even when they contradict our conscious aspirations and dreams. The contents of the subconscious are formed in childhood, in relationships with parents and other people important to us. And relationships in adulthood often evoke the same feelings that filled our childhood relationships. In practice, this is what happens: The girl is smart and beautiful. Very promising. And my personal life is not going well. The men next to her are poor. They start dating someone who seems to be a smart, successful man with a good job. And after some time, he begins to have problems, his income drops, even to the point of losing his job. And this is a trend in her life. Recently she came and said: “I realized that it’s me who castrates them. What should we do?” We started to sort things out with her, and found out that her dad reproached her for paying for her studies, reproached her for the money she spent. And he said that even though she received an excellent education, she was still not worth a damn. (Only he is cool, dad). And dad, by the way, is an alcoholic. The client, of course, was angry and offended. And she tried in every possible way to prove her worth. She worked without sparing herself. But being with a man who is higher than her in status is dangerous for her - he will humiliate, reproach and not consider her anything. The experience of a relationship with her dad about money was so painful for her that she is horrified by the mere thought that a man could give her money, help her financially (and not only financially, by the way), and even more so, provide for her. She cannot accept money from men. Categorically! For her, this is tantamount to destruction. If he is wealthier, it means he will destroy her, crush her, trample her. This is the connection that works in her subconscious. Therefore, she has no life next to a wealthy man. So it turns out that either the man next to him becomes poor if he loves him very much (and there is something to love for!), or he leaves in order to save himself. This story of my client is not over yet. Now she is going through a process of transformation (change). God willing, together we will be able to break this vicious circle. I'm sure!