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I would like to start my article with a wonderful quote: The cover of New York magazine recently featured a man behind bars screaming “Help! I'm a prisoner of long-term therapy!" Bring a brooding therapist and a brooding client together, and treatment can last forever. (J. Prochazka, J. Norcross, C. di Clemente, “Psychology of Positive Change”) As Eastern wisdom says: “If you sow an action, you will reap a habit; sow a habit and reap a character; sow character, reap destiny.” Therefore, the act and the ability to perform it at the right time and in the right place plays an important role. And here it is difficult to overestimate the training of skills and elements of social learning. Having performed an action once, we form a completely new cause-and-effect chain, shift the horizon line forward and higher, and expand our tunnel vision of the situation. “Was it possible to do that?” Of course it’s possible! Here, when working with a client, I usually refer to the authority of L. S. Vygotsky, although the concept of the zone of proximal development concerns the learning of children and is more used in pedagogy. I suggest the client start with small, feasible steps that cause the least resistance and are subject to a small volitional effort. Often, for chronic thinkers, reality is divided into two parallel streams that never intersect. A kind of Oblomovism. These are bright thoughts and dreams, but these are gray, habitual actions, brought to the point of automatism and providing the necessary and sufficient level of adaptation. And then, you can always console yourself with the fact that “I’ll think a little more, and then tomorrow...” But, as the Red Queen said in the fairy tale “Alice in Wonderland”: “Is it possible to wake up and say: “Well, finally, tomorrow”?” “Tomorrow” is a terrible word, because it never comes. And what about now? should I do this? I usually give an exercise that I call “Speaking,” which I even practice myself from time to time). To prevent the cycle of procrastination from being habitually started, I suggest gradually saying out loud or silently the actions that need to be performed, and doing them at the same time. This way, an insidious thought that triggers another cycle of doing nothing has less chance of breaking into consciousness and influencing our behavior. For example: “Now I will do exercises. So, I go to the closet and take the rug... here is the rug, I unroll it... now I turn on the music, this one, I love it... that's it, let's go! "Now look - you're already in the process!

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