To move forward on the path of self-love, it is important to understand why we are doing this. To maintain motivation, it is important to see an image of the result. Let's see what will change in your life when you find self-love. You will have a job you love. Working through pain, tears, suffering is not a gentle approach to yourself. This is only possible when you don’t hear yourself and don’t follow your abilities and needs. By loving yourself, you accept and understand your skills, competencies, strengths and desires and, in accordance with them, select for yourself a suitable field of work, corporate culture, income level and even the location of the company, so as not to waste energy on the road, but to devote this time more important things, things and people....You will have supportive friends and family by your side. You will stop allowing other people to criticize you. You will learn to build personal boundaries and communicate productively and carefully with different types of people, demanding the same attitude in return. You will learn to choose yourself and value reciprocity in everything, without neglecting your needs in favor of the unethical manifestations of others in order to preserve your relationship at all costs. You will be able to choose friends based on interests and similar views on life, and not because “well, we have known each other since childhood, how can I stop communicating, she will be offended.” ...Your inner critic will disappear. He may continue to appear, but you will no longer believe him or listen to him. Through the development of awareness and critical thinking, through changing deep-seated beliefs and internal attitudes, you will come to self-acceptance. You will be able to focus on objective indicators of the effectiveness of your experience, and not on other people's assessments and self-criticism. ...Your level of happiness will increase. You will learn to see your good qualities, accept the dark sides of your personality and act in ways to deactivate or correct them. You will learn to appreciate your merits and not devalue the experience gained. You will learn to take responsibility for your inner state and shape it yourself. If we talk about specific steps on the path to self-love, then it is important - First, to know your reactions, find beliefs, analyze the reasons and information on the basis of which you make decisions. For example, I decided not to go to the New Year’s party because I’m embarrassed, because everyone there will be cheerful, but I’ll be a little sad and I’ll be out of place. That is, I made a decision based on an unpleasant feeling, which means it controls me, and not I control my condition and behavior. Then it’s worth asking the question: is this right for me? - Secondly, study your needs and find ways to meet them in an environmentally friendly manner. For example, I have a need to get support and then I can choose different ways: turn to friends, sign up with a psychologist, support myself. - Thirdly, learn new ways of communication and self-regulation. These irreplaceable skills help you build relationships with yourself and your loved ones, and be more successful in your career and creativity. Thus, when you understand why you are taking this path, it is easier for you to think through the steps of implementation and plan moving forward. It's easier for the brain to recognize short-term benefits, so the steps you plan should have positive reinforcement during the implementation process, and not just at the end, when you achieve the goal. This way, the path of development will be not only useful, but also enjoyable. And this will stimulate further movement. And note: to get an outstanding result, you need to take action! Not only read, not only search and learn new things, but also try, try, strive, holding the image of the result in front of you. Then your efforts will pay off and you will be able to improve the quality of your life. Sign up for the training “The Power of Boundaries: How to Learn to Say <No>”. We will find your personal “plugs” in setting boundaries and practice in a safe environment. Groups and.