The Roots of Jealousy Jealousy is a feeling of unbearable pain as soon as a person imagines that his beloved is dating someone else. Whether this suspicion is justified or not does not matter at the time of the experience; the suffering has already been ingrained into the soul. Jealousy causes activity, a thirst for activity, anxiety, and increasing mistrust. The basis of such intense feelings is the disappointment that the child experiences in the process of relations with his father and mother. It is impossible to understand and explain the jealousy of an adult without taking into account the primary trauma that preceded these feelings. A jealous person's passion may not fade away for years, sometimes in the absence of a reason for jealousy. Sometimes jealousy is not expressed so clearly; feelings are rather forced out of consciousness at the cost of various mental disorders. For example, a man who suspects his wife of infidelity and experiences jealousy as a result will not become “hot,” but one day he will notice that he is unable to read. He has excellent vision, he can distinguish individual letters, but cannot perceive words, much less sentences. Working with a psychologist, it becomes clear what happened to him. He found a love note from his wife addressed to another man. The find shocked him so much that the letters have since continued to “jump” before his eyes, and he is unable to understand the meaning of what was written. Having overcome attacks of mental weakness, and consciously renouncing jealousy and hatred of his unfaithful wife, he suppressed his feelings, directed them inward and paid with a neurotic symptom, visual impairment. It turns out that jealousy can literally blind. This man might suffer from stomach pain, periodic heart spasms, depression, or obsessive thoughts. Having addressed his complaints to a doctor, he would have undergone a thorough medical examination and could have been admitted to the hospital. But the treatment would not bring any results until the doctor suspected that the cause of the disease lay in a psychological problem. Thus, we can say that jealousy can be dictated by unbearable resentment, which can significantly lower self-esteem. Or a significant role in the occurrence of jealousy can be played by a person’s own desire to cheat on his partner, which is attributed to him. Even in childhood, we all experienced feelings associated with jealousy. A child loves his mother passively and soon realizes with bitterness that he cannot get a reciprocal feeling from her, because even the most tender mother and the most caring father leave the child for each other from time to time. This experience convinces the child that every time he wants someone to love him, he runs the risk of being left to the mercy of fate. This primary trauma is at the origins of jealousy and the feelings that accompany it. We are talking about the mental state of the child, about his desire to be loved, about encouraging his tender feelings. The child feels rejected, abandoned, isolated, an outcast, thrown out of the door of a house in which others enjoy love and happiness. This situation can be called social. This initial experience lays the foundation for all subsequent neurotic disorders. Therefore, the “core complex” of neurosis, as P. Kutter explains, should be considered a feeling of abandonment.