Asked and answered: Children's aggression, what to do? First, let's take note that aggression is a pattern of behavior.. In other words, aggression is a response to an unpleasant situation in which a child finds himself. As a rule, problems of aggressive behavior emerge in children aged 2.5 to 5 years. And this is normal. It is important to understand that under no circumstances should you suppress aggression or forbid getting angry, since aggression is a way of telling adults about your feelings. In general, you need to understand that aggression is an integral part of the emotional component of our lives. And it is in childhood that children learn, with our help, to live through these difficult states. If the above is accepted, then the first and main thing to do is to recognize the child’s feelings and behavioral reaction and pronounce them: “You’re angry, you’re offended, you want to hit, you wanted..."After feelings and desires have been spoken (verbalized), you can take the next step, namely, we teach the child to express aggression in a form that is acceptable and safe for others. For example, the paper may be torn or crumpled. It’s good if you have a special pillow at home that you can beat, bite, and kick. You can also draw, sculpt, anger, you can start a war between toys or throw soft balls into the corner with all your might. The main thing is not to leave the child alone in this state. Your task is to help the child live through the feeling that caused the aggressive behavior. And make sure that the child does not harm himself in the process of reacting to this condition. Often, after responding to aggression, a child may cry; tell him that you are sorry that it didn’t turn out the way he wanted. But when expressing sympathy to a child, be sincere, children will instantly feel the falsehood and then aggression will be directed at you. After the storm has subsided, you can talk to the child and discuss what happened and how you can behave differently in such situations. By the way, now there is excellent children's books, where everything is very beautifully shown and told in pictures, about various difficult situations for a child and ways out of them. Finally, I cannot help but say a few words about the benefits of aggression. While the baby is small, you stand in his defense and protect him from danger, but children grow quickly and sometimes, when you are not around, he may simply need to be able to be aggressive in order to protect himself. Therefore, our task is to teach the child, while he is small, to competently deal with his aggression, and not suppress it, and then he will grow up to be a confident person..