It’s difficult for me to write unambiguously about divorce. After all, every couple has their own story... Let's imagine something average. 1. First of all, you need to clearly understand that divorce is not a mistake. Do everything possible to avoid the mistake of divorce. I know many cases when both sides regret the divorce all their lives. Remember: “Pride is good, but happiness is better!” Be sure to contact specialists. Building family happiness is difficult for most. Only in fairy tales does everything look clear. But fairy tales almost always end with a wedding. Remember, loved ones and friends are not the ones who will help you in these matters. Creating a good relationship is always work and it is better with a specialist. It is difficult for us to combine the values ​​of our two step families. It is difficult to agree on the boundaries of a new family. Often everyone tries to push their own way, considering this to be the only true thing. Many grievances, disagreements are born... And divorce. 2. If you finally make the choice towards divorce. You need to talk to your former loved one and end the relationship. Let go of your life. Create agreements on some necessary obligations, preferably on paper. 3. If you can’t meet, write him a goodbye letter. Thank you for the good things that happened in your life together. Ask for forgiveness for your mistakes, for the pain you caused. Write that you forgive and let the person go from your life. Wish you good luck from the bottom of your heart. 4. If it is difficult for you to do this for a long time: it means you forget about the short-term nature of your life on Earth. Most likely, at the level of feelings you have the feeling that you will live forever. But this is not so... Or at the level of feelings you feel like a child who was left without a mother or without a father. Contact an experienced psychologist, this will help you sort out what is happening to you. Your condition can change greatly for the better after therapy, I know many examples. 5. Create a new melody of your life every day. Color it with bright chords that are close to your soul. 6. Create an image of new love, and it will appear. 7. The worst thing is to fall into a sacrificial position, to feel like an abandoned thing. Often people experience this state as the real and only reality. Trust me, a specialist, everything can change. A new reality may appear in your life. Do everything for a new reality to appear. Contact specialists, experienced psychologists. Your life is valuable, amazing, live your true life. Be happy! Sincerely, Ekaterina Plasteeva.