Who is an obsessive neurotic and what and to whom does he impose? means obsessive neurosis as a structure. Every adult, and often a fairly young person, builds his relationship with the world, with people, with partners in a certain way. The way that is firmly established is related to structure. Obsessive neurosis as a structure is characterized, for example, by a very special relationship with knowledge, truth (an obsessive neurotic can hardly accept that any knowledge about the world, people, or himself is inaccessible to him). The following traits may be clearly expressed - he has an opinion and considers it significant; he gives something important to people, and people want to get it from him (often this can be built around money or another resource) and thus the obsessive neurotic builds relationships. What then is imposed on others? Worldview. This, of course, is a very approximate picture, with enlarged strokes. Obsessive neurosis, being a consequence of the structure, as a rule, starts at a certain moment in life and, in some cases, can make a person’s life, which was previously quite tolerant and balanced, completely unbearable. Neurosis can be accompanied by symptoms: from excessive cleanliness, obsessive actions, rituals, tics to pronounced anxiety, psychosomatics and even panic attacks. Neurosis can also seek a way out in behavioral aspects - in relationships. For example, I would like to cite a case that is quite typical for modern life. This is a hidden neurosis, because such behavior is not usually read as neurotic. But that's essentially what it is. A completely respectable boy who believes in family values, with parents who love and desire each other, growing into a young man, is faced with a dilemma - whether to pursue the girl he loves or deal with a more accessible one. The difficulty of deciding for this man - to deal with the one you love, or the one you want - having found some balance at a certain age, increases at a new stage of life - at the moment when the woman he is married to gives birth to a child. This is where neurosis begins - expressed in an obsessive desire for numerous, disorderly, including group, sexual relationships. Love and desire are divorced. The presence of this secret side of life brings him significant relief in family life. The behavioral solution reduces neurotic suffering, on the contrary, it becomes a pleasurable symptom, but nothing changes in neurotic functioning. The threat for the beginning of the next round of neurosis was provided by the case when this man suddenly fell in love again and began to desire one woman, and was faced with the choice - to continue to function as earlier or try to change your life. This situation actually became the reason for him to visit the psychoanalytic office. What happens structurally in this case: the boy, dreaming of being like his father, nevertheless makes the figure of the Father unique for himself in his psyche: that is, there are men to whom the boy now relates himself, identifying, but there is also a Father - unique in his kind - only the Father can achieve, and live, and have children with the woman he loves. In childhood, such a mental structure can arise from many prerequisites. In adulthood, it does not change: there is always something that for this man is repeated as impossible - to be like a father in everything - and to love and want (make a woman the mother of his children) one woman. Much remains to be explored in the analysis... Otherwise, this man will continue to repeat similar situations in life and in this repetition will not find another solution, each time yielding to his Father. The unconscious thing in this case will be that it will be difficult for a man to accept that he arranges this impossibility in life for himself: he deceives himself and imposes his own.