PAIN THAT DOESN'T GO OVER OR HOW DOES A CHILD REACH MY PARENTS Pain that does not go away is the most terrible and the most invisible. The child is often sick, persistent runny nose, cough, bronchial asthma, enuresis, encopres, dermatological diseases. Frequent trips to the doctor, endless tests that find nothing, doctors shrug their shoulders. And the child continues to get sick. Or frequent whims, hysterics, aggression. Behind this is childhood pain, the desire to be heard and understood. The child does not find words to explain what is happening to him, the body does it in his place, and therefore a disease appears that originates in the child’s head and knocks on the parents through the body. When there are no words to describe what happens when the only thing you can do is scream, get angry, cry, stomp your feet, bite, fight, be rude or withdraw into yourself, hide from everyone and continue to live until the psyche forms its own illusory world into which the child will fall and then return him to reality very difficult. Two ways for a child to protect his or her self or go into somatic illness, when the body gives access to express emotions and feelings, or mental illness, when the body blocks the impulses of the psyche and the psyche finds a way out, creating its own world, psychosis, hallucinations, schizophrenia, such terrible consequences when a child knocks for a long time on the closed door of his parents’ hearts. Ekaterina Yuzvak, child and adolescent psychologist