There is such a heavy feeling - guilt. Guilt, ringing in the ears and clinging to its bearer, does not allow progress towards success, it stalls endeavors, it makes a person a victim of manipulators, provokes the formation of low self-esteem - in general, it does little to help its bearer. How is it formed and why do people need it at all? The most common way of raising children is to use punishment according to approximately this algorithm: the child does something disapproved by the parents, the parents get angry, the child feels that the connection with them is broken, and at the same time receives punishment, the child corrects what he did, or apologizes and draws a conclusion about his behavior, communication with the parents is established, the child is forgiven. Violation of the child’s connection with his parents is unconsciously dangerous for the child, because without this connection his survival is at risk. At this moment, a feeling of guilt and fear of losing the favor of the parents forever appears. And when, after correction, the child is forgiven, the need to fix everything is reinforced. This is a completely normal mechanism for the formation of socially acceptable behavior, because we live in a society and it is important to learn to comply with generally accepted norms of behavior. This is how true guilt or a normal feeling of guilt is formed, which is expressed in the willingness to take responsibility for one’s actions and their consequences. But, unfortunately, a child can be blamed too often or for no obvious reason. And in this case, the child either does not understand what he must fix, or he is not able to fix it. But there is a fear of losing closeness with parents, which means the child will worry. Then sooner or later he will be forgiven. This is how the conclusion is formed - in order to forgive, you need to suffer from experiences. This is pathological guilt, which is tied to experience, desire and inability to correct something. Often children in this case become obsequious, comfortable and compliant, just so as not to upset their parents. And the dissatisfaction of the parent remaining in the memory, his facial expressions, angry notes in his voice, words of accusation are transferred to other people and are perceived as indispensable evidence of guilt. Although there is enough internal criticism, driving into guilt. With pathological guilt, responsibility for one’s actions may suffer, because a person has learned to worry, but not to correct the consequences. In general, this is an extremely unhelpful feeling from all sides. What can you do to say goodbye to pathological guilt? Working with the past is important: realizing from an adult position where in childhood a person was really guilty and where he was not. Experiencing feelings that were impossible to live in childhood .Developing the skill of objectively assessing the presence of guilt. Working with the recognition of responsibility for the consequences and searching for options for correction. Working with pride: we often believe that we can influence the feelings of other people, that it was we who upset the person, that because of us he feels bad. But we cannot force another person's sphere not to belong to us. Realizing this, it becomes possible to separate your sphere of responsibility from the imposed one. And most importantly, remember that everything is fine with you!