“I changed it to attract attention...” Someone may be perplexed, someone will agree and confirm, someone will not understand. But such a reason for betrayal as attracting attention is a fairly common story. You can find a demonstration of this type of betrayal from episode 9 of season 1 of the series “Patients”. And before reading further, I recommend watching the excerpt from 10 minutes until the end of the series. Distinctive features of this betrayal: • the one who cheated does not have the goal of deliberately hurting a wounded partner, this is the last attempt to somehow relieve his pain and hopelessness from that that the loved one is somewhere, but not next to him; • the hurting partner does not enjoy the side relationships: “I feel like crap”; • the partner’s jealousy of time: “you are busy, at work you are full of life, but at home you powerless for us, I haven’t seen for a long time that I am more important to you”; • usually one partner in a relationship is withdrawing, falling out of the relationship, the other is demanding and attacking; In these points there are no excuses for the wounding partner, and no accusations of the wounded partner. It is important to note that infidelity is not that simple, and it is important to trace what happened in the couple and come to an understanding of how each partner prevents the other from being responsive, involved, and having an open discussion of circumstances, thoughts, worries, fears and needs. Each partner makes certain “steps” in the relationship, which leads to dissatisfaction, strong reactive emotions, fatigue and a lack of ability to engage in the relationship. What to do? If two partners mutually decide that, despite the disaster of their relationship, they want to be together, more To fully understand what happened to them, when the destruction began and what to do now, then an integral part will be to contact a marital therapist to answer these questions and restore intimacy and trust. If you are faced with infidelity in a relationship, whether you have been hurt or injured, you have the right to receive help, support, restoration of the psycho-emotional state, a clear understanding of what is happening. You can sign up for a session through the website or through the contacts section of WhatsApp/Telegram.