«Neurosis: everyone knows, but not everyone understands! Let them resolve your conflict for you. Neurosis is a psychiatric disease, although in the new classification you will not find this particular term; it has been replaced by many others: Adaptation disorder, Somatoform disorder, Neurasthenia, etc. But the essence remains the essence - all neuroses have one thing in common: it is a clash of contradictory tendencies within a person, his multidirectional desires or his desires and the attitudes of society, and due to the fact that these contradictions of equal strength are not overcome by any of them and the person is, as it were, torn, “sausaged” in different directions, he rushes about in this unpleasant state of not choosing any of decisions. Let’s say, if a person chose at least something and began to implement it, it would be easier because of certainty, but in a situation where there is no choice of a single decision, there will be neurosis, and in neurosis the heart cannot calm down, it is not satisfied with either one or the other decision the same. For example, a woman decided to divorce her husband, he is a scoundrel, a scoundrel and all that, but after the divorce she walks around lost, constantly thinks about it, grinds the details of their quarrels in her head again and again, doubts the correctness of her choice, begins to sleep poorly at night, eats less and smokes more and, as a result, decreased performance and a minor accident with her car due to absent-mindedness force her to see a psychotherapist. Where it turns out that not all parts of her personality agree with her choice, that there is some resistance inside, remnants of tender memories, fear of loneliness, fear of repeating her mother’s scenario, fear of the future. And it is in such conditions, when one part wants one thing, and the other another (usually dictated by society “a woman cannot be alone, she must certainly be married”), and neurosis arises. Very often, in the depths of neurosis, as the reason for the inability to calm down with the decision made, lie the attitudes of our parents, educators, their “don’ts,” their prohibitions, and later our own “shouldn’ts” and other restrictions. They suppress this wonderful quality - spontaneity, which was given to us from birth and was designed to help us find a way out of ANY situation. All children have this quality, they don’t think for a long time when they want something small, they don’t suffer from remorse and moral standards - they just do it in their pants and that’s it. But the life of an adult is much more complicated; we desperately need norms and standards of behavior, otherwise we would not be able to live in society. All this is true and the good intentions of our educators are understandable. And yet, those who have ingrained the beliefs of previous generations too deeply within themselves begin to suffer. And suffering is neurosis. Depressive neurosis, anxiety neurosis (up to panic attacks), obsessive-compulsive neurosis (in movements or thoughts, up to complete paralysis of activity), heart neurosis, stomach neurosis, etc. Neurosis is not some kind of deep mental disorder, compared to psychosis, and therefore can be treated with psychotherapy, but it is much more difficult to bear psychologically. Let's say a person in psychosis lives in his own fictional reality, it is more or less normal for him there, this is not normal for those around such a person, but it is normal for the person himself. The same cannot be said about “neurotics” - outwardly they try with all their might to hide their condition, but when they can’t stand it, they have a nervous breakdown, the breakdown of all defenses, the breakdown of masks, and they can no longer restrain their emotions under the onslaught of suppressed experiences. It is in such a deplorable state that people turn for help. Treatment of neurosis depends on the depth of the lesion - if the state of adaptation is severely affected (a person can neither go to work, nor cope with normal household duties, nor even cook food and take care of himself), then you will have to start with medications (tranquilizers and antidepressants), and later involve psychotherapy. If, in general, the person’s activity is preserved, and™