Do you like being “attacked” by others? They criticize, insult, say that you are mediocrity, incompetent, have a different character, etc. Of course you will say no. This is a huge stress for you and you want to escape from it in every possible way. So why are you doing this to yourself? Self-criticism, self-irony (which is equal to hidden aggression), self-blame, etc. For your psyche it = “someone told me these words.” You can only run away from people. But we are not escaping ourselves. You are absolutely defenseless towards yourself. You attack, and thereby destroy yourself, playing the role of an adversary, an enemy, the main insulter and destroyer (in relation to yourself). The more we attack, the more we destroy our own value, self-esteem. Sooner or later, we will feel hopelessness in the manifestation of certain character traits and emotions. This leads to the fact that we move away from ourselves and are unable to accept all manifestations of ourselves. We form a certain image of the “ideal self”, which begins to dictate to us what we must correspond to. Achieving the ideal image of your fantasy is unrealistic and impossible. Those who think that this is real are very mistaken and will have to face disappointment. The more we chase this image, the further we are from reality, i.e. from ourselves. At the same time, this image begins to guide us, and we lose the ability to realistically evaluate ourselves, our relationships with others and our reactions to them. Look at your own expectations of yourself. Analyze what you don’t like and reject in yourself (possibly hate). Remember what pain points your family and friends are pressing on. All these are your weaknesses that you want to hide, that you want to run away from. However, everyone has such weaknesses. Absolutely every person has their own shadow side!!! Always be on your side. You have the right to make mistakes. You have the right to have any character traits. You have the right to feel any emotion and feeling (emphasis here on feel). You have the right to be stupid about something, not to know something, not to understand something. You have the right not to want to know and study something (despite the critical cries of society). If others make comments to you, they do not wish anything bad. All this, of course, with the best intentions. And, in fact, it is not only your problem, but also theirs. People, most often, are ready to express their negative opinion only because they themselves cannot accept themselves and withstand their shadow side. Yes, it's worth listening, but remember to be objective. Try to add your own opinion to the opinions of others. At the same time, it is IMPORTANT for everyone to learn how to maintain relationships. This is not the case when “you are somehow different, so figure it out.” This is always a dialogue: “It’s difficult for me with you like that, but I’m ready and ready to help you.” Therefore, be lenient towards yourself, do not judge strictly, do not condemn! Take care of yourself, don’t let others trample your love for yourself. Taking good care of yourself and full acceptance is the key to a happy and successful life..