From the author: My goal in this article is to relieve excess anxiety before going to a psychologist just enough to get a person to see a psychologist. Because, when faced with a professional psychologist, the client will be able to get what he wants, regardless of how prepared he (the client) is for this meeting. On b17 I often see topics about the fact that a person doubts starting (or continuing) psychotherapy, someone then he writes about his disappointments from working with a psychologist. So, in one article I decided to express my point of view on these topics. For those who experience fears and anxieties, going to a psychologist can be a real test. More precisely, the most difficult thing is not even the first meeting itself, but what precedes it. Anxious a person is afraid of everything, as they say, in life, and even more so to seek psychological help. Questions are spinning in the head of such a person: - When is it more effective to begin deep work on oneself: when the problem has worsened or at the moment when it has faded into the background and Are there resources for work?—Have I diagnosed myself correctly?—Where to start a conversation with a psychologist?—How to overcome the fear that, on the contrary, I can too confidently state all my life’s difficulties and convince the psychologist that I don’t need help? - What is most important to me? How not to lose the most important thing behind the details? - How not to be afraid to tell the truth? How can I avoid a situation where I avoid discussing too sensitive issues and do not allow the psychologist to identify my problem? - What if I am too susceptible to suggestion and do not critically accept the psychologist’s interpretations? - Why am I going to a psychologist? (often in the context of whether I was going there in vain in the first place?) Stop! Questions of this kind can be asked endlessly. Also, an infinite amount has already been written on this topic, and I will not repeat what is easy to dig up on the Internet. My task in this article is to relieve excess anxiety before going to a psychologist just enough to ensure that a person gets to a psychologist . Because, when faced with a professional psychologist, the client will be able to get what he wants, regardless of how prepared he (the client) is for this meeting. To begin with, you can come to a psychologist without a formulated request. The fact that for some reason you are not as happy as you would like is a sufficient reason for contacting, and the specialist’s task is to find the reason for this. And all representatives of professions working in the field of helping the human psyche differ from other specialists in that they You can just contact us just like that. Now, if you come to a therapist and say that you “don’t know why you came, and you, in general, are fine,” then the doctor will perceive such a “request for help” as inadequate and, perhaps, will recommend that you contact to a psychiatrist, which was what needed to be proven. :)But how can a psychologist figure out a request if the person himself has not clearly realized it? Yes, very simple. The fact is that no matter what a client starts talking about at an appointment with a psychologist, he always talks about his problem. The psychologist can only help him see the connection between what a person says and what brought him to him. The same is useful to remember for those clients who prepare written preparations, diagrams, tables for a meeting with a psychologist. It’s simply terrible how many sophisticated preparations clients come to me for consultation with. So much time wasted by them ineffectively. Why ineffective? But because you still can’t understand on your own what’s stopping you from living. Not a single person can objectively understand the reasons for his difficulties in life, and all the work of independently studying his psyche is Sisyphean work. In order to understand the problem, you need to look at it objectively, and for this you need to go beyond the situation - and how to get out of your own psyche? Next, the professional psychologist asks the client more than giving final statements. You will be asked for your thoughts all the time while working.!